Refusing Marriage Out of Fear of Divorce
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Question:
This sister who asked the question, using the code name Umm Asama, says to me: A friend of mine is twenty-eight years old. Her relatives and young men have proposed to her, but she refuses and is afraid to proceed with marriage out of fear of divorce. The house she lives in is mostly occupied by her sisters, and most of them have been divorced. She says, “I do not want my fate to be like the fate of my sisters.” Is this a valid excuse, and how does this contradict divine decree and destiny? May you be rewarded.
Answer:
Take this from the whispers of Satan. She must marry and should be quick to accept if a suitable, righteous man proposes to her. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said:Sunan Ibn Majah 1967Da'if (Darussalam) and trustworthiness and [Al-Anfal 8:73]. And Allah the Exalted said: [An-Nur 24:32] So if she is afraid for herself of falling into what is not permissible, it is obligatory for her to marry. If she is not afraid, it is recommended for her to marry because of the great benefits in marriage. She should leave these obsessive thoughts, and this is from the whispers of Satan.
The presenter:
Yes.
This sister who asked the question, using the code name Umm Asama, says to me: A friend of mine is twenty-eight years old. Her relatives and young men have proposed to her, but she refuses and is afraid to proceed with marriage out of fear of divorce. The house she lives in is mostly occupied by her sisters, and most of them have been divorced. She says, “I do not want my fate to be like the fate of my sisters.” Is this a valid excuse, and how does this contradict divine decree and destiny? May you be rewarded.
Answer:
Take this from the whispers of Satan. She must marry and should be quick to accept if a suitable, righteous man proposes to her. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
If there comes to you one with whose
إذا أتاكم من ترضون دينهand his wife.
وزوجته.If you do not do so, there will be fitnah on earth and great corruption.
إِلَّا تَفْعَلُوهُ تَكُن فِتْنَةٌ فِي الْأَرْضِ وَفَسَادٌ كَبِيرٌAnd marry the unmarried among you and the righteous among your male slaves and female slaves
وَأَنكِحُوا الْأَيَامَىٰ مِنكُمْ وَالصَّالِحِينَ مِنْ عِبَادِكُمْ وَإِمَائِكُمْThe presenter:
Yes.
Source
نور على الدرب - الفوزان - 03/154 — archive.org (13:17)
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