The Engagement Party with the Hand Drum, Dancing, and Wearing the Ring

Question:
This is a message received from Yemen from one of the sisters. She says: Honorable Shaykh, there is a custom among some people that when they marry off their daughter, they hold a party for her. They invite the women to the house of the fiancée, and the bride’s mother puts the ring on the bride. After that, they beat the hand drum and dance, and the people of the house provide sweets and the like. The question is: Is this a religious innovation (bid'ah)? Is it permissible for a Muslim woman to do such a thing? And what is the proper marriage in this regard? May you be rewarded.

Answer:
What is prescribed after the marriage contract or after consummation is to hold a wedding feast. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said to the one who married because this is part of announcing the marriage. So what is prescribed is holding a wedding feast on the occasion of the marriage. Likewise, it is recommended to beat the hand drum for women on the occasion of the marriage, because this is part of announcing the marriage. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said with the hand drum or the sieve or the hand drum, and anything beyond that, such as distributing sweets and so on, these are matters that have no basis. Yes.

The presenter:
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