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﴿ فَاسْأَلُوا أَهْلَ الذِّكْرِ إِن كُنتُمْ لَا تَعْلَمُونَ ﴾

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Refusing a Non-Compliant Suitor and the Mother's Anger

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Question:
We move on to a letter from Maryam from Yemen. She says: A young man proposed to me, but he is not committed to his religion, so I refused him. My mother got angry, and every time they ask for my permission, I refuse him, and my mother’s anger increases. Is this considered undutifulness to her? Please give us a ruling, may you be rewarded, and ask Allah to grant me a righteous husband, as well as all Muslim girls. May Allah reward you with the best reward.

Answer:
This is your right: you choose a husband who is righteous in his religion and trustworthy. Do not obey anyone who wants to force you to marry a man who is negligent in his religion or a traitor to trust. This is your right, and it is not undutifulness to the parents. Rather, it is taking your right. The father is the one who is wrong, or the mother; they are the ones who are wrong if they want to force you to marry someone who has a defect in his religion. Yes.
Source نور على الدرب - الفوزان - 03/161 — archive.org (18:02)

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