The Ruling on Lamentation and Holding Feasts for the Deceased

Question:
He says: What is the ruling on screaming, crying, and slapping the hair for a woman regarding her deceased husband or father? And what is the ruling on preparing a feast and reciting the Qur'an for the deceased?

Answer:
As for slapping, raising the voice, and pulling the hair, this is among the matters of the pre-Islamic age of ignorance (jahiliyyah), and this is among the acts of lamentation, and may Allah protect us from it.
This is among the lamentation for the deceased, and it is among the matters of the pre-Islamic age of ignorance (jahiliyyah). It is obligatory for the Muslim to be patient and seek reward from Allah, and give glad tidings to the patient: It is obligatory for the Muslim to be patient and seek reward from Allah. As for holding feasts, parties, and the like, this is among religious innovations (bid'ah), among the acts of excessive effort, and among the burdens placed on the family of the deceased. Instead of being occupied with their calamity, they are faced with another matter: receiving visitors, preparing food, and so on, setting up tents, and hiring reciters. All of this is among religious innovations (bid'ah) and among the eulogizing (ta'biyn), and this is the forbidden eulogizing (ta'biyn).

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