The Messenger’s (peace and blessings be upon him) methodology regarding marriage
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Question:
May Allah reward you with good and bless you. This brother, the questioner Abu 'Abdullah, says: Honorable Shaykh, what is your view on the exaggeration in weddings today, and the reluctance of many young men to marry because they cannot afford it? And what is the Messenger’s (peace and blessings be upon him) methodology regarding the matter of marriage?
Answer:
Marriage is a prescribed matter. It is obligatory for a person if he is able to afford its expenses and fears for himself the trial of leaving it off; he fears for himself the trial, so it is obligatory for him. As for the one who is able to afford its expenses but does not fear for himself the trial, it is recommended for him because of the benefits it contains. As for the one who is not able to marry, he waits. Allah the Exalted said:[An-Nur 24:33] And Allah is All-Encompassing, All-Knowing. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Sunan an-Nasa'i 3208Sahih (Darussalam) Yes.
May Allah reward you with good and bless you. This brother, the questioner Abu 'Abdullah, says: Honorable Shaykh, what is your view on the exaggeration in weddings today, and the reluctance of many young men to marry because they cannot afford it? And what is the Messenger’s (peace and blessings be upon him) methodology regarding the matter of marriage?
Answer:
Marriage is a prescribed matter. It is obligatory for a person if he is able to afford its expenses and fears for himself the trial of leaving it off; he fears for himself the trial, so it is obligatory for him. As for the one who is able to afford its expenses but does not fear for himself the trial, it is recommended for him because of the benefits it contains. As for the one who is not able to marry, he waits. Allah the Exalted said:
But let them who find not [the means for] marriage abstain [from sexual relations] until Allah enriches them from His bounty.
وَلْيَسْتَعْفِفِ الَّذِينَ لَا يَجِدُونَ نِكَاحًا حَتَّىٰ يُغْنِيَهُمُ اللَّهُ مِن فَضْلِهِWhoever among you can afford it, let him get married, and whoever cannot then he should fast, for it will be a restraint (wija') for him.
يا معشر الشباب من استطاع منكم الباءة فليتزوج، ومن لم يستطع فعليه بالصوم فإنه له وجاء.
Source
نور على الدرب - الفوزان - 03/189 — archive.org (7:24)
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