The Ruling on Seeing the Fiancée and Delaying the Marriage of a Young Woman
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The questioner:
I move on to a question from one of the brothers who says: I am a young man who wants to get married, but the girl's family refused to let me see the fiancée. What is the ruling on that?
The Shaykh:
Or is seeing the fiancée obligatory? As long as you know her, trust her family, and she is a righteous woman, seeing her is not a condition for marrying her. You can send a woman you trust to look at her and report to you about her condition.
The questioner:
Also, he asks, may Allah preserve him, his last question: What is the ruling on delaying the marriage of a young woman?
The Shaykh:
It is not permissible to delay the marriage of a young woman and prevent her from a suitable suitor she has accepted, for any reason, because this is 'udhl (preventing marriage), and 'udhl is forbidden. If her closest guardian prevents her marriage, the guardianship transfers to the guardian after him so that the girl is not harmed. It is obligatory to hasten. The Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) said: [Al-Anfal 8:73]. Allah the Exalted and Majestic said: [An-Nur 24:32] So, provide for them abundantly, and do not delay unless there is a legitimate Shari'ah reason for the delay. Yes.
I move on to a question from one of the brothers who says: I am a young man who wants to get married, but the girl's family refused to let me see the fiancée. What is the ruling on that?
The Shaykh:
Or is seeing the fiancée obligatory? As long as you know her, trust her family, and she is a righteous woman, seeing her is not a condition for marrying her. You can send a woman you trust to look at her and report to you about her condition.
The questioner:
Also, he asks, may Allah preserve him, his last question: What is the ruling on delaying the marriage of a young woman?
The Shaykh:
It is not permissible to delay the marriage of a young woman and prevent her from a suitable suitor she has accepted, for any reason, because this is 'udhl (preventing marriage), and 'udhl is forbidden. If her closest guardian prevents her marriage, the guardianship transfers to the guardian after him so that the girl is not harmed. It is obligatory to hasten. The Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
If
إذاIf you are pleased with their religion and trustworthiness, then marry them
أتاكم أن ترضون دينه وأمانته فزوجوهIf you do not do so, there will be fitnah on earth and great corruption.
إِلَّا تَفْعَلُوهُ تَكُن فِتْنَةٌ فِي الْأَرْضِ وَفَسَادٌ كَبِيرٌAnd marry the unmarried among you and the righteous among your male slaves and female slaves
وَأَنكِحُوا الْأَيَامَىٰ مِنكُمْ وَالصَّالِحِينَ مِنْ عِبَادِكُمْ وَإِمَائِكُمْ
Source
نور على الدرب - الفوزان - 03/210 — archive.org (9:24)
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