The Most Important Qualities in Choosing a Husband
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Question:
Umm Ahmad from Dammam asks: What are the most important matters on which a woman bases her choice of a husband? And does rejecting a righteous husband for worldly purposes expose her to the punishment of Allah?
Answer:
There is no doubt that choosing a husband is a matter of great importance, and choosing a wife is likewise a matter of great importance. The greatest factor in the choice is religion, and also chastity and modesty. These two are the greatest qualities one desires in a husband: that he be religious and hold fast to his religion, and that he be chaste, protected, and pure in his honor. This is the greatest quality one desires in a woman,Bulugh al-Maram 8:5,
Umm Ahmad from Dammam asks: What are the most important matters on which a woman bases her choice of a husband? And does rejecting a righteous husband for worldly purposes expose her to the punishment of Allah?
Answer:
There is no doubt that choosing a husband is a matter of great importance, and choosing a wife is likewise a matter of great importance. The greatest factor in the choice is religion, and also chastity and modesty. These two are the greatest qualities one desires in a husband: that he be religious and hold fast to his religion, and that he be chaste, protected, and pure in his honor. This is the greatest quality one desires in a woman,
The Prophet (ﷺ) said: "A woman is married for four qualities, for her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion: so get the religious one and prosper."
النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ تُنْكَحُ اَلْمَرْأَةُ لِأَرْبَعٍ لِمَالِهَا وَلِحَسَبِهَا وَلِجَمَالِهَا وَلِدِينِهَا فَاظْفَرْ بِذَاتِ اَلدِّينِ تَرِبَتْ يَدَاكَ
Source
نور على الدرب - الفوزان - 03/217 — archive.org (13:41)
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