The Expiation of One Whose Mother Died While Angry with Him
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Question:
Honorable Shaykh Salih, this questioner says, may Allah preserve you: My mother passed away while she was angry with me. What is obligatory for me to do to expiate for this great sin?
Answer:
If she commanded you to do good, or something in her interest, then carry it out, even if she has died; carry out what she commanded you to do. Or if you promised her something good, carry out what you promised her; if you did not do it, she became angry with you, so make up for it. As for if that was not the case, and rather you were mistreating her, or you were undutiful to her, and she died in that state, you have committed a great error, because undutifulness to parents is among the greatest of major sins after shirk (associating partners with Allah), and their right comes after the right of Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He). So you must repent and seek forgiveness, and you must compensate or mitigate what occurred from you by being dutiful to them after their death. This is done by making du'a' (supplication) for them, giving sadaqah (voluntary charity) on their behalf, performing Hajj (the major pilgrimage) and 'Umrah (the lesser pilgrimage) on their behalf, and by honoring relatives connected to them, maintaining family ties, and by being dutiful to their friends in life. And more important than that is to clear their conscience of debt, if they had a debt and did not leave a partner or repayment for it, then you pay it off from your wealth. This is part of being dutiful to them. If they had a legal bequest, carry it out as they bequeathed; this is part of being dutiful to them. Yes.
The presenter:
May Allah reward you,
Honorable Shaykh Salih, this questioner says, may Allah preserve you: My mother passed away while she was angry with me. What is obligatory for me to do to expiate for this great sin?
Answer:
If she commanded you to do good, or something in her interest, then carry it out, even if she has died; carry out what she commanded you to do. Or if you promised her something good, carry out what you promised her; if you did not do it, she became angry with you, so make up for it. As for if that was not the case, and rather you were mistreating her, or you were undutiful to her, and she died in that state, you have committed a great error, because undutifulness to parents is among the greatest of major sins after shirk (associating partners with Allah), and their right comes after the right of Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He). So you must repent and seek forgiveness, and you must compensate or mitigate what occurred from you by being dutiful to them after their death. This is done by making du'a' (supplication) for them, giving sadaqah (voluntary charity) on their behalf, performing Hajj (the major pilgrimage) and 'Umrah (the lesser pilgrimage) on their behalf, and by honoring relatives connected to them, maintaining family ties, and by being dutiful to their friends in life. And more important than that is to clear their conscience of debt, if they had a debt and did not leave a partner or repayment for it, then you pay it off from your wealth. This is part of being dutiful to them. If they had a legal bequest, carry it out as they bequeathed; this is part of being dutiful to them. Yes.
The presenter:
May Allah reward you,
Source
نور على الدرب - الفوزان - 03/238 — archive.org (7:42)
The Arabic text is a machine transcription of the audio recording.