The Foundations for Choosing a Spouse and Rejecting a Righteous Suitor
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Question:
In this context, another questioner asks: What are the most important matters on the basis of which a girl chooses her husband? And does rejecting a righteous husband for worldly purposes expose her to the punishment of Allah?
Answer:
Yes, among the reasons for which people marry is the statement of the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him): “When one comes to youJami` at-Tirmidhi 1084Da'if (Darussalam) in one narration, and his trustworthiness, then marry him to her, if he is righteous in his religion, righteous in his character, and trustworthy. Then he marries her. If he does not marry her, there will be great fitnah (trial, discord or temptation) and corruption in the land. Marriages will be hindered, and women and men will be hindered from marriage. Corruption will occur in society; they will be exposed to corruption in character, exposed to zina (unlawful sexual intercourse), and exposed to lewd acts. For marriage contains protection, and it contains good for the two spouses. [An-Nur 24:30-31], up to the statement of the Exalted: “And marry the unmarried among you” [An-Nur 24:32-33]. Therefore, it is necessary to encourage marriage, to desire marriage, to cooperate in marriage, and not to remove the obstacles in the path of marriage. Yes.
The presenter:
May Allah reward you,
In this context, another questioner asks: What are the most important matters on the basis of which a girl chooses her husband? And does rejecting a righteous husband for worldly purposes expose her to the punishment of Allah?
Answer:
Yes, among the reasons for which people marry is the statement of the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him): “When one comes to you
whose religion and character you are pleased with
من ترضون دينه وخلقه(30) Tell the believing men to reduce [some] of their vision and guard their private parts. That is purer for them. Indeed, Allah is Acquainted with what they do. (31) And tell the believing women to reduce [some] of their vision and guard their private parts
قُل لِّلْمُؤْمِنِينَ يَغُضُّوا مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِمْ وَيَحْفَظُوا فُرُوجَهُمْ ذَٰلِكَ أَزْكَىٰ لَهُمْ إِنَّ اللَّهَ خَبِيرٌ بِمَا يَصْنَعُونَ وَقُل لِّلْمُؤْمِنَاتِ يَغْضُضْنَ مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِنَّ وَيَحْفَظْنَ فُرُوجَهُنَّ(32) And marry the unmarried among you and the righteous among your male slaves and female slaves. If they should be poor, Allah will enrich them from His bounty, and Allah is all-Encompassing and Knowing. (33) But let them who find not [the means for] marriage abstain [from sexual relations] until Allah enriches them from His bounty. And those who seek a contract [for eventual emancipation] from among whom your right hands possess - then make a contract with them if you know there is within them goodness and give them from the wealth of Allah which He has given you. And do not compel your slave girls to prostitution, if they desire chastity, to seek [thereby] the temporary interests of worldly life. And if someone should compel them, then indeed, Allah is [to them], after their compulsion, Forgiving and Merciful.
الْأَيَامَىٰ مِنكُمْ وَالصَّالِحِينَ مِنْ عِبَادِكُمْ وَإِمَائِكُمْ إِن يَكُونُوا فُقَرَاءَ يُغْنِهِمُ اللَّهُ مِن فَضْلِهِ وَاللَّهُ وَاسِعٌ عَلِيمٌ وَلْيَسْتَعْفِفِ الَّذِينَ لَا يَجِدُونَ نِكَاحًا حَتَّىٰ يُغْنِيَهُمُ اللَّهُ مِن فَضْلِهِThe presenter:
May Allah reward you,
Source
نور على الدرب - الفوزان - 03/239 — archive.org (2:33)
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