The Ruling on Accepting a Smoking Suitor
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Question:
And may Allah bless you. The questioner Abu Ibrahim sent this question, saying: I have a daughter, praise be to Allah, and she is of the utmost good character, religion, and beauty. A suitor has proposed to her. Among these suitors, Honorable Shaykh, is one who explains the harm of smoking and maintains his prayer, but he is a smoker. What is the Shaykh’s opinion? Should I accept him?
Answer:
There is no doubt that seeking a suitable husband in his religion and character is what the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) commanded. He said: “When there comes to you one whose religion and trustworthiness you are pleased with, marry your daughter to him. If you do not, there will be a fitnah (trial, discord or temptation) on earth and great corruption.” One should seek the best of the suitors, the best available, the most ideal of them. However, the smoker is committing a sin that is harmful and has an effect; it brings disease upon him, his children, and his wife. This is an apparent defect. The smoker should avoid this until he repents to Allah the Exalted.
The presenter:
May Allah reward you
And may Allah bless you. The questioner Abu Ibrahim sent this question, saying: I have a daughter, praise be to Allah, and she is of the utmost good character, religion, and beauty. A suitor has proposed to her. Among these suitors, Honorable Shaykh, is one who explains the harm of smoking and maintains his prayer, but he is a smoker. What is the Shaykh’s opinion? Should I accept him?
Answer:
There is no doubt that seeking a suitable husband in his religion and character is what the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) commanded. He said: “When there comes to you one whose religion and trustworthiness you are pleased with, marry your daughter to him. If you do not, there will be a fitnah (trial, discord or temptation) on earth and great corruption.” One should seek the best of the suitors, the best available, the most ideal of them. However, the smoker is committing a sin that is harmful and has an effect; it brings disease upon him, his children, and his wife. This is an apparent defect. The smoker should avoid this until he repents to Allah the Exalted.
The presenter:
May Allah reward you
Source
نور على الدرب - الفوزان - 03/245 — archive.org (10:24)
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