The ruling on a woman doing things to make her husband hate her
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Question:
The first question of this session is from a sender, Ayn Fa from Ha'il. She says: A woman loves her husband intensely, to the point that she cannot bear to be separated from him, even for a short time. But sometimes she makes a mistake with him, then regrets it afterward and says, “What should I do to hate him a little, so that my love for him is in proportion, perhaps that will fix the situation?” Please advise us, may Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. Praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds, and may Allah send prayers and blessings upon our Prophet Muhammad, and upon his family and his Companions, and upon those who follow his guidance. As for what follows, Allah, Glorified and Exalted is He, by His wisdom, made affection between the spouses for the continuation of the marital relationship and the preservation of the marriage and the benefits that follow from it. Allah the Exalted said:[Ar-Rum 30:21] [Ar-Rum 30:21] However, when a thing exceeds its limit, it turns into its opposite. The intensity of love, as the questioner mentioned, to the point that it goes beyond the norm, this may lead to harms and damages. And this may be the effect of something unpleasant, such as the work of sorcery and enchantment that sorcerers perform. So whoever is afflicted with any of that, he should treat himself with dhikr (remembrance of Allah) and ruqyah (healing by Qur'anic recitation), reading the Qur'an, so that perhaps Allah will remove this affliction from him.
As for her doing things to make her husband hate her, as she says in her question, this is not permissible. It is not permissible for her to do things to make her husband hate her, because this is contrary to the marital relationship. But she is required to fulfill the rights she owes her husband and not to disobey him, if that is in accordance with what is right and within the limits of what is prescribed. Then she obeys him and does not do anything that angers him, as much as she is able to do so. Yes.
The first question of this session is from a sender, Ayn Fa from Ha'il. She says: A woman loves her husband intensely, to the point that she cannot bear to be separated from him, even for a short time. But sometimes she makes a mistake with him, then regrets it afterward and says, “What should I do to hate him a little, so that my love for him is in proportion, perhaps that will fix the situation?” Please advise us, may Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. Praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds, and may Allah send prayers and blessings upon our Prophet Muhammad, and upon his family and his Companions, and upon those who follow his guidance. As for what follows, Allah, Glorified and Exalted is He, by His wisdom, made affection between the spouses for the continuation of the marital relationship and the preservation of the marriage and the benefits that follow from it. Allah the Exalted said:
And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquillity in them
وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَاand He placed between you affection and mercy
وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةًAs for her doing things to make her husband hate her, as she says in her question, this is not permissible. It is not permissible for her to do things to make her husband hate her, because this is contrary to the marital relationship. But she is required to fulfill the rights she owes her husband and not to disobey him, if that is in accordance with what is right and within the limits of what is prescribed. Then she obeys him and does not do anything that angers him, as much as she is able to do so. Yes.
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، 5038- هل إفراط الزوجة في حب زوجها له مفاسد؟ وهل يدل على وجود السحر؟ وكيف التعامل الصحيح مع الزوج؟ — youtube.com
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