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﴿ فَاسْأَلُوا أَهْلَ الذِّكْرِ إِن كُنتُمْ لَا تَعْلَمُونَ ﴾

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Your advice to those who do not care about the marriage of their daughters and sisters?

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Question:
The houses have indeed been filled with unmarried women, so we ask Your Eminence to direct an advice to those who do not care about the marriage of their daughters, sisters, and others. May Allah reward you with good for us.

Answer:
We advise everyone, all the guardians of women, to strive to marry off women. If someone proposes to them whose religion and character they are pleased with, they should marry her to him, as the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) commanded. They should also beware of being excessive in bridal gifts and wedding feasts. Rather, everyone should strive to make things easy and facilitate matters so that marriage becomes more common and fewer women remain in the houses, and fewer young men remain in the houses. The young men are in need, and the women are in need; they are all in need. Therefore, it is obligatory for everyone to cooperate in the pleasure of piety. The young man should take the initiative to marry and be eager to marry. His father and elder brother should help him in that. The guardians of women should help him in that, and they should take the initiative to marry off their daughters. They should not be excessive in display, nor in the wedding feast. It is not a problem for a man to say to his daughter’s suitor, “O so-and-so, look, I have a daughter, I have a daughter.” If he has a desire, and he sees that the man is of religion and goodness, he may propose. 'Umar proposed his daughter Hafsah, proposing her to Abu Bakr al-Siddiq and Ibn Uthman, and then the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) married her. The point is that if a man invites the husband of his daughter, or his sister, or his sister’s daughter, to marry a suitable match, he is thanked for this. He is thanked and rewarded. Likewise, if the young man strives to seek marriage and is patient with the expenses, even if he has to borrow, Allah will remove it from her, Glorified and Exalted is He. Likewise, if his father borrows and marries him, Allah will remove it from him. Likewise, if his mother borrows and marries her son, may Allah be pleased with her. Cooperation is required from everyone: the mother, the father, the brother, and the elder. Each of them must help in marrying the young man, or the guardian of the woman must strive to marry her off. It is not disliked for her to be with a man who has a wife, or wives; there is no objection. He may marry her even if he has a wife, or two, or three. There is no objection to that. Her sitting with a husband is better for her than sitting without a husband, even if she is the fourth, third, or second wife. Women should discard from their minds the dislike of plural marriage. Allah said:
then marry those that please you of [other] women, two or three or fourفَانكِحُوا مَا طَابَ لَكُم مِّنَ النِّسَاءِ مَثْنَىٰ وَثُلَاثَ وَرُبَاعَ
[An-Nisa 4:3]
They should discard this matter and be pleased with what Allah has prescribed. There is no objection to her being with a husband who has a wife, or two, or three; it is better for her than sitting alone. He will chaste her and help her in her religion and her worldly affairs, and Allah will provide her with a child or more from him. This is a great blessing, better than sitting without a husband. We ask Allah for guidance for everyone.
Source قناة «فضيلة الشيخ ابن باز Alsheikh Binbaz»، 451 نصيحتكم للذين لا يهتمون بزواج بناتهم وأخواتهم؟ للإمام ابن باز — youtube.com

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