Is it obligatory to obey one's parents in choosing a wife?
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The questioner:
All right, go ahead, my brother Abdullah from Tabuk. Abdullah, go ahead. Hello, peace be upon you. Yes, and upon you be peace.
The Shaykh:
And upon you be peace.
The questioner:
Peace. I have two questions. Yes, my first question is: I, Shaykh, wanted to be married, but problems arose between me and my family because of my wife, so I divorced her. Then I wanted to marry someone else, but my family refused. Do I have to obey my family in this matter, or not?
The presenter:
All right, the Shaykh will answer this in a moment.
The Shaykh:
And what is the question?
The presenter:
Repeat your question one more time and raise your voice, Abdullah.
The questioner:
I, Shaykh, was married and I had two daughters with me, and problems arose between my family and my wife, so my family forced me to divorce my wife, so I divorced her. Then I said I wanted to marry someone else, but they refused. They said they want to choose for me according to their own preference. Do I have to obey them, or I said I wanted to marry according to my own preference, but my family refused and did not want the person I chose. My family refused and said they want to choose according to their own preference.
The Shaykh:
My brother, your question is not clear. You say you divorced them, and you say your family expelled your wife. I do not know what the question is now. Is it about the divorce, or that your family does not want your wife?
The questioner:
My family wants to choose the marriage according to their own preference. They want the marriage to be according to their own preference. So I am facing this issue; I want it to be according to my own preference, and I am having problems with my family.
The Shaykh:
You say that you divorced your wife.
The questioner:
Yes, I was married and problems arose, so they let me divorce her, so I divorced her. Now I want to marry someone else, but they refused and said they want to choose according to their own preference.
The Shaykh:
So you want to marry again after the divorce?
The questioner:
Yes.
The Shaykh:
In any case, reaching an understanding with your family and pleasing them is required. However, if there is no defect in the woman, neither in her religion nor in her character, and you desire her and she desires you, then your family has no right to prevent you from marrying her. But treat your parents well and reach an understanding with them in the best way. Yes.
All right, go ahead, my brother Abdullah from Tabuk. Abdullah, go ahead. Hello, peace be upon you. Yes, and upon you be peace.
The Shaykh:
And upon you be peace.
The questioner:
Peace. I have two questions. Yes, my first question is: I, Shaykh, wanted to be married, but problems arose between me and my family because of my wife, so I divorced her. Then I wanted to marry someone else, but my family refused. Do I have to obey my family in this matter, or not?
The presenter:
All right, the Shaykh will answer this in a moment.
The Shaykh:
And what is the question?
The presenter:
Repeat your question one more time and raise your voice, Abdullah.
The questioner:
I, Shaykh, was married and I had two daughters with me, and problems arose between my family and my wife, so my family forced me to divorce my wife, so I divorced her. Then I said I wanted to marry someone else, but they refused. They said they want to choose for me according to their own preference. Do I have to obey them, or I said I wanted to marry according to my own preference, but my family refused and did not want the person I chose. My family refused and said they want to choose according to their own preference.
The Shaykh:
My brother, your question is not clear. You say you divorced them, and you say your family expelled your wife. I do not know what the question is now. Is it about the divorce, or that your family does not want your wife?
The questioner:
My family wants to choose the marriage according to their own preference. They want the marriage to be according to their own preference. So I am facing this issue; I want it to be according to my own preference, and I am having problems with my family.
The Shaykh:
You say that you divorced your wife.
The questioner:
Yes, I was married and problems arose, so they let me divorce her, so I divorced her. Now I want to marry someone else, but they refused and said they want to choose according to their own preference.
The Shaykh:
So you want to marry again after the divorce?
The questioner:
Yes.
The Shaykh:
In any case, reaching an understanding with your family and pleasing them is required. However, if there is no defect in the woman, neither in her religion nor in her character, and you desire her and she desires you, then your family has no right to prevent you from marrying her. But treat your parents well and reach an understanding with them in the best way. Yes.
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، 1986 - هل يجب طاعة الوالدن في اختيار الزوجة؟ - الشيخ صالح الفوزان — youtube.com
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