My father abandons the congregational prayer and prays at home, so what is obligatory for me to do, knowing that I have tried with him many, many times?
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Question:
Abu al-Muthanna has a case in which he says: My father abandons the congregational prayer and prays at home, and I live with him and my family, which consists of eleven people. Praise be to Allah, I am the complete opposite of my father. Knowing that I am in the final stage of secondary school, on the verge of graduating, what is obligatory for me to do? Knowing that I have tried with him many, many times, and I have told some people who know him to advise him, but alas, their advice was of no avail. What is to be done? May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. Praise be to Allah, and may peace and blessings be upon the Messenger of Allah. And to proceed: This is something that causes sorrow for every Muslim, where the situation has been reversed. For it was obligatory that the father be the one who commands his children to obey Allah and raises them upon good. As for the matter being the opposite, where the father is the one who rebels against the obligations and abandons the prayer, and the son is the one who advises him and declares his actions wrong, in any case, this is a good thing from the son, and may Allah reward him with good. And this is the obligatory duty toward his father, as he is the closest person to him. However, it was supposed that the father would be more eager for good and be a good role model for his children. As for what the brother questioner mentioned regarding the situation of his father, that he is negligent in obeying Allah, and that the son advises him, admonishes him, and commands him to obey Allah, this is something for which he is thanked and rewarded, if Allah wills. He must continue to advise his father, perhaps Allah will guide him. If he is guided, praise be to Allah. If he persists in his bad state, then if the son is independent from his father, he does not live with him. Rather, he must separate into a residence where he is far from this bad father, after he has fulfilled the duty of advice and fulfilled the right of his father over him. But guidance is in the hand of Allah, Glorified and Exalted is He. So he is excused if he separates from him in a residence that is far from his company and his sitting with him. Yes.
Abu al-Muthanna has a case in which he says: My father abandons the congregational prayer and prays at home, and I live with him and my family, which consists of eleven people. Praise be to Allah, I am the complete opposite of my father. Knowing that I am in the final stage of secondary school, on the verge of graduating, what is obligatory for me to do? Knowing that I have tried with him many, many times, and I have told some people who know him to advise him, but alas, their advice was of no avail. What is to be done? May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. Praise be to Allah, and may peace and blessings be upon the Messenger of Allah. And to proceed: This is something that causes sorrow for every Muslim, where the situation has been reversed. For it was obligatory that the father be the one who commands his children to obey Allah and raises them upon good. As for the matter being the opposite, where the father is the one who rebels against the obligations and abandons the prayer, and the son is the one who advises him and declares his actions wrong, in any case, this is a good thing from the son, and may Allah reward him with good. And this is the obligatory duty toward his father, as he is the closest person to him. However, it was supposed that the father would be more eager for good and be a good role model for his children. As for what the brother questioner mentioned regarding the situation of his father, that he is negligent in obeying Allah, and that the son advises him, admonishes him, and commands him to obey Allah, this is something for which he is thanked and rewarded, if Allah wills. He must continue to advise his father, perhaps Allah will guide him. If he is guided, praise be to Allah. If he persists in his bad state, then if the son is independent from his father, he does not live with him. Rather, he must separate into a residence where he is far from this bad father, after he has fulfilled the duty of advice and fulfilled the right of his father over him. But guidance is in the hand of Allah, Glorified and Exalted is He. So he is excused if he separates from him in a residence that is far from his company and his sitting with him. Yes.
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، أبي تارك للصلاة مع الجماعة وفي البيت، فما الواجب علي فعله، علما بأني حاولت معه مرات ومرات؟ الفوزان — youtube.com
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