Is it permissible for a man to divorce his wife to please his parents?
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The questioner : The questioner says: A disagreement occurred between my wife and my mother. I and my wife left the house without my mother's permission. I have children from this wife. So, should I divorce her to please my mother?
The Shaykh : Yes. This is an important issue, because some mothers, when they see that their son loves his wife, become jealous of it and create problems between the man and his wife. The situation may even reach the point where the mother says to her son: Either you divorce your wife, or I will be angry with you. We say: It is not obligatory for the husband to divorce his wife to please his mother.
The presenter : Yes.
The Shaykh : Or to please his father, as long as the wife is upright and there is no defect in her religion.
The presenter : Lawful.
The Shaykh : And no deficiency in her chastity. Imam Ahmad (may Allah have mercy on him) was asked about this issue.
The presenter : Yes.
The Shaykh : About a man whose father ordered him to divorce his wife. Imam Ahmad said: Do not divorce her. The questioner said to him:
The presenter : He helped.
The Shaykh : Ibn 'Umar.
The presenter : One day.
The Shaykh : His father, 'Umar, ordered him to divorce his wife. So Ibn 'Umar asked the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him).
The presenter : May Allah keep you safe.
The Shaykh : And he ordered him to divorce her.
The presenter : We give her.
The Shaykh : In compliance with the order of... we do not know. The order of his father. So Imam Ahmad said to him:
The presenter : Ahmad.
The Shaykh : Is your father like 'Umar ibn al-Khattab?
The presenter : Okay.
The Shaykh : Meaning that the Ummah cannot.
The presenter : Is it possible?
The Shaykh : That a father orders his son to divorce his wife except for a Sharia reason. As for the rest of the fathers,
The presenter : This.
The Shaykh : They may order their sons to divorce their wives for other than a Sharia reason.
The presenter : Sharia.
The Shaykh : It may be for a personal reason. And the Ummah may order the divorce of
The presenter : Peace.
The Shaykh : her son's wife.
The presenter : For a personal purpose, not for a Sharia reason. Based on this, we say to this questioner:
The Shaykh : for a personal purpose, not for a religious reason. And on this basis, we say to this questioner:
The presenter : Extra.
The Shaykh : If your woman is upright in her religion and chaste in her character,
The presenter : In the end.
The Shaykh : Then do not divorce her. But it is possible
The presenter : It is possible.
The Shaykh : to resolve the dispute between her and your mother.
The presenter : You.
The Shaykh : By advice and guidance.
The presenter : May Allah guide you.
The Shaykh : If the situation improves,
The presenter : Here.
The Shaykh : Otherwise, keep her in your house.
The presenter : Yes.
The Shaykh : And keep your mother in another house.
The presenter : the Last.
The Shaykh : And the problem will be resolved.
The presenter : Problem.
The Shaykh : Yes, yes.
The Shaykh : Yes. This is an important issue, because some mothers, when they see that their son loves his wife, become jealous of it and create problems between the man and his wife. The situation may even reach the point where the mother says to her son: Either you divorce your wife, or I will be angry with you. We say: It is not obligatory for the husband to divorce his wife to please his mother.
The presenter : Yes.
The Shaykh : Or to please his father, as long as the wife is upright and there is no defect in her religion.
The presenter : Lawful.
The Shaykh : And no deficiency in her chastity. Imam Ahmad (may Allah have mercy on him) was asked about this issue.
The presenter : Yes.
The Shaykh : About a man whose father ordered him to divorce his wife. Imam Ahmad said: Do not divorce her. The questioner said to him:
The presenter : He helped.
The Shaykh : Ibn 'Umar.
The presenter : One day.
The Shaykh : His father, 'Umar, ordered him to divorce his wife. So Ibn 'Umar asked the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him).
The presenter : May Allah keep you safe.
The Shaykh : And he ordered him to divorce her.
The presenter : We give her.
The Shaykh : In compliance with the order of... we do not know. The order of his father. So Imam Ahmad said to him:
The presenter : Ahmad.
The Shaykh : Is your father like 'Umar ibn al-Khattab?
The presenter : Okay.
The Shaykh : Meaning that the Ummah cannot.
The presenter : Is it possible?
The Shaykh : That a father orders his son to divorce his wife except for a Sharia reason. As for the rest of the fathers,
The presenter : This.
The Shaykh : They may order their sons to divorce their wives for other than a Sharia reason.
The presenter : Sharia.
The Shaykh : It may be for a personal reason. And the Ummah may order the divorce of
The presenter : Peace.
The Shaykh : her son's wife.
The presenter : For a personal purpose, not for a Sharia reason. Based on this, we say to this questioner:
The Shaykh : for a personal purpose, not for a religious reason. And on this basis, we say to this questioner:
The presenter : Extra.
The Shaykh : If your woman is upright in her religion and chaste in her character,
The presenter : In the end.
The Shaykh : Then do not divorce her. But it is possible
The presenter : It is possible.
The Shaykh : to resolve the dispute between her and your mother.
The presenter : You.
The Shaykh : By advice and guidance.
The presenter : May Allah guide you.
The Shaykh : If the situation improves,
The presenter : Here.
The Shaykh : Otherwise, keep her in your house.
The presenter : Yes.
The Shaykh : And keep your mother in another house.
The presenter : the Last.
The Shaykh : And the problem will be resolved.
The presenter : Problem.
The Shaykh : Yes, yes.
Source
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