My son is negligent about prayer and sometimes sleeps through it and through the Friday prayer. Should I kick him out of the house?
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Question:
He says: Honorable Shaykh, may Allah grant you success. The questioner says: My son is eighteen years old, and he is negligent about prayer. Sometimes he sleeps through three of the prayer times: Dhuhr, 'Asr, and Maghrib. This week, he slept through the Friday prayer. All of this, and I try to wake him up, but I miss the takbir of the imam. His question is: Should I kick him out of the house? Knowing that he cannot do without me. And what do you advise me to do? May Allah grant you success.
Answer:
First, this may stem from poor upbringing. You did not raise him when he was young, and you did not accustom him to the congregational prayer and the Friday prayer. You did not train him in that. For this reason, the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) said: You did not raise him, so when he grew up, you cannot overcome him. It is obligatory for the father to look after his son from a young age, from the age of discernment. He should start with him and accustom him to prayer and attending the congregation until he becomes accustomed to it. As for you, if you leave him to run wild and then, when he reaches maturity, you want to bring him back to the right path, you cannot. If you straighten the branches, they straighten; but if they are made of wood, they do not bend. So hurry with your son from a young age. Second, as for kicking him out of the house: if he can do without you, if you kick him out and he can do without you, then kick him out. It is obligatory for you to kick him out after you have lost hope in his repentance. Let him go and manage his own affairs, or perish in his own way. But if he cannot do without you, then you are required to provide for him, to struggle with him, and to be patient with him until Allah guides him. Yes.
He says: Honorable Shaykh, may Allah grant you success. The questioner says: My son is eighteen years old, and he is negligent about prayer. Sometimes he sleeps through three of the prayer times: Dhuhr, 'Asr, and Maghrib. This week, he slept through the Friday prayer. All of this, and I try to wake him up, but I miss the takbir of the imam. His question is: Should I kick him out of the house? Knowing that he cannot do without me. And what do you advise me to do? May Allah grant you success.
Answer:
First, this may stem from poor upbringing. You did not raise him when he was young, and you did not accustom him to the congregational prayer and the Friday prayer. You did not train him in that. For this reason, the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
Order your children to pray at seven, and compel them to pray at ten,
مروا أولادكم بالصلاة بسبع، وجبوهم عليها لعشر،
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، [3398- 4717] ولدي يتهاون بالصلاة وينام عنها وعن صلاة الجمعة أحياناً فهل أخرجه من البيت؟ — youtube.com
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