What is your advice for a husband who has four children with his wife, but has come to intensely dislike her over the past three years? Should he divorce her?

Question:
May Allah bless you. I ask that you help me, for I am suffering from my hatred of my wife. I am married and have four children, but this hatred began three years ago, or perhaps longer. I have not wanted to have intercourse with my wife for a year, and I do not want to spend much time at home except to sleep or eat a meal, which I swallow with a bitter taste. This is because I constantly think about my state and my marital life. Those I consulted advised me to read, and I have done so for about a year, but nothing has changed. My question is that I want to marry again, hoping that what is in me will go away. Do you advise me to divorce my wife or not? I know that I am unable to grant her a divorce.

Answer:
This indicates that this is a recent development. Is this something that has recently occurred between you and your wife? This is not free from one of two possibilities: either it is envy, meaning the evil eye has struck you, or it is sorcery that has been performed on you. In any case, you must be patient and not rush. Perhaps Allah will remove it from you. You should also engage in dhikr (the remembrance of Allah) and recitation of the Qur'an. Seek ruqyah (healing by Qur'anic recitation) from those you trust to perform it with the lawful ruqyah. Perhaps Allah will remove this from you.
Marrying a second, third, or fourth wife is permissible for you; there is no obstacle. Marry, and praise be to Allah, there is no obstacle. But do not be unjust. If you marry, be just among the wives. Give every wife her right of lodging, residence, clothing, and financial maintenance. You must be just.
Justice among wives is required in what you are able to be just in, which are these matters: financial maintenance, clothing, residence, and lodging with them. As for intercourse, that is not in your power; you cannot be just in intercourse because that is in the hand of Allah, Glorified and Exalted is He. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) used to divide his time among his wives and said, "O Allah, this is my division in what I control, so do not hold me accountable for what You control and I do not, which is love and inclination." This is in the hand of Allah, Glorified and Exalted is He, regarding love and inclination. This is regarding love and inclination, whereas at the beginning of the surah it says, "If you fear that you will not be just, then [marry] one." The justice intended at the beginning of the surah is the justice that is attainable, which is financial maintenance, residence, clothing, and lodging.
The justice negated at the end of the surah is what a person cannot do, which is love and inclination in the heart, as well as inclination in pleasure. A person cannot do it, but he should try as much as he can to be just among his wives in this. And Allah, (Exalted and Majestic is He), does not hold him accountable for something he cannot do. Yes, but he must not be unjust to the other. He must not be unjust to her in financial maintenance, clothing, residence, or lodging, but rather be just among them in that. Yes.