The ruling on proposing to a stingy man and seeking out people of good character in charity
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The questioner:
A stingy man proposes to a woman. Is it acceptable?
The Shaykh:
By Allah, it is safer if he seeks someone else, perhaps Allah will cover it. If he is known for his stinginess, he should seek someone else, unless she desires him and he is a man of religion. If she desires him, there is no harm. But the advice is to advise her to be patient, perhaps Allah will cover it with someone better than him. If he is stingy and known for his stinginess, she is advised and it is said to her: Perhaps you can be patient. If she agrees, and if not, there is no harm. If he is...
Another questioner:
And religion is also considered; the best of what I have.
The Shaykh:
If he is a match in his religion, there is no harm, and if she is pleased, even if he is stingy, there is no harm.
Another questioner:
Zakah is what one strives to give to its rightful recipient. I say, zakah, excuse me, and charity.
The Shaykh:
One seeks out people of good character, modesty, and poverty. But if he happens to give it to a poor relative, or he hopes that Allah will benefit him through it, and he strives, there is no harm.
A stingy man proposes to a woman. Is it acceptable?
The Shaykh:
By Allah, it is safer if he seeks someone else, perhaps Allah will cover it. If he is known for his stinginess, he should seek someone else, unless she desires him and he is a man of religion. If she desires him, there is no harm. But the advice is to advise her to be patient, perhaps Allah will cover it with someone better than him. If he is stingy and known for his stinginess, she is advised and it is said to her: Perhaps you can be patient. If she agrees, and if not, there is no harm. If he is...
Another questioner:
And religion is also considered; the best of what I have.
The Shaykh:
If he is a match in his religion, there is no harm, and if she is pleased, even if he is stingy, there is no harm.
Another questioner:
Zakah is what one strives to give to its rightful recipient. I say, zakah, excuse me, and charity.
The Shaykh:
One seeks out people of good character, modesty, and poverty. But if he happens to give it to a poor relative, or he hopes that Allah will benefit him through it, and he strives, there is no harm.
Source
التعليق على بعض أحاديث صحيح مسلم، تابع شرح كتاب الزكاه (4) — islamhouse.com (15:18)
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