Mourning for the deceased for men
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The questioner:
And the issue of shirk (associating partners with Allah), and is it permissible for a man to come if this deceased person is his father or his son? And is it obligatory for him to mourn for him, or should he seek mercy for him?
The Shaykh:
Is mourning permissible? Mourning is exclusively for women. As for the man, does he not mourn? The pre-Islamic age of ignorance (jahiliyyah) did not harm him. As for supplicating for him and seeking mercy for him, that is good. And as for our brothers who preceded us in faith, but he does not mourn for them. Men do not mourn; this is one of the specific characteristics of women.
And the issue of shirk (associating partners with Allah), and is it permissible for a man to come if this deceased person is his father or his son? And is it obligatory for him to mourn for him, or should he seek mercy for him?
The Shaykh:
Is mourning permissible? Mourning is exclusively for women. As for the man, does he not mourn? The pre-Islamic age of ignorance (jahiliyyah) did not harm him. As for supplicating for him and seeking mercy for him, that is good. And as for our brothers who preceded us in faith, but he does not mourn for them. Men do not mourn; this is one of the specific characteristics of women.
Source
شرح قرة عيون الموحدين في تحقيق دعوة الأنبياء والمرسلين، باب من الإيمان بالله الصبر على أقدار الله — islamhouse.com (1:05:59)
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