Obedience to the Father in Financial Support and Renting a House for His Wife
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Question:
The questioner says: Honorable Shaykh, may Allah grant you success, does a father have the right to abandon his financial responsibility for one of his wives, particularly regarding the rent for the house she lives in, and compel his children to pay the rent for her, knowing that the father is financially capable and the woman is in the state of nushuz (marital defiance) or is elderly, and he visits her and keeps her company? Also, is the father required to compel his children to pay another amount for the rent of their aunt's house? And if my father compels me in one of these two cases and I refuse, is this considered 'uquq (undutifulness to parents)?
Answer:
Obedience to the father is obligatory except in disobedience to Allah. As long as he has not ordered you to commit a sin, you must obey him, even if you spend some of your wealth in obedience to your father. You and your wealth belong to your father regarding the matter between the father and the son. As for the matter between the husband and the wife, these are cases that are referred to the courts, so you should not interfere in them; they are referred to the courts. And Allah the Exalted knows best, and may Allah send prayers and peace upon our Prophet Muhammad and upon his family and his Companions.
The questioner says: Honorable Shaykh, may Allah grant you success, does a father have the right to abandon his financial responsibility for one of his wives, particularly regarding the rent for the house she lives in, and compel his children to pay the rent for her, knowing that the father is financially capable and the woman is in the state of nushuz (marital defiance) or is elderly, and he visits her and keeps her company? Also, is the father required to compel his children to pay another amount for the rent of their aunt's house? And if my father compels me in one of these two cases and I refuse, is this considered 'uquq (undutifulness to parents)?
Answer:
Obedience to the father is obligatory except in disobedience to Allah. As long as he has not ordered you to commit a sin, you must obey him, even if you spend some of your wealth in obedience to your father. You and your wealth belong to your father regarding the matter between the father and the son. As for the matter between the husband and the wife, these are cases that are referred to the courts, so you should not interfere in them; they are referred to the courts. And Allah the Exalted knows best, and may Allah send prayers and peace upon our Prophet Muhammad and upon his family and his Companions.
Source
شرح قرة عيون الموحدين في تحقيق دعوة الأنبياء والمرسلين، باب من سب الدهر فقد آذى الله، وباب التسمي بقاضي القضاة ونحوه — islamhouse.com (1:11:52)
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