The Criterion for Undutifulness to Parents

The questioner:
And for the world, good, that is, shirk (associating partners with Allah), is the plan of the determined.

The Shaykh:
From all aspects of health.

Another questioner:
Yes.

The questioner:
Many of the believers, except for those who are truthful with their origins.

The Shaykh:
Yes, yes.

Another questioner:
Regarding the criterion for undutifulness that affects the parents' hearts, or disobedience without effect?

The Shaykh:
Undutifulness is in anything that harms them or hurts them, whether in speech or in conduct. As for a matter that harms them but they have a share in something, it is not considered undutifulness. He says the matter is approximately their share is a group. The criterion for undutifulness is that it is something that harms them or brings them harm. As for something that does not harm them and benefits the child and does not harm them, this is not considered undutifulness. So if he remains with a righteous wife and they are not pleased with her, but she does not harm them, does not insult them, and does not bring them evil, but they do not like her, he is not called undutiful unless she harms them with something or he harms them with something. As long as she is sound and kind, but he orders the divorce of her without a cause, likewise if they prevent him from seeking knowledge, or prevent him from the gathering of the living, he does not obey them, rather the one who is presented is the one who is obeyed. So the criterion is that what they request is something that benefits them and harms them harmfully. As for if they request something that harms him and does not benefit them, this is aggression from them, and it is not called undutifulness. Yes.