Protection from Temptations in This Age, the Obligation of Marriage, and the Pleasure of Parents
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The questioner:
He asks: How can one be protected from this age in which temptations have multiplied, such as magazines, films, pictures, satellite dishes, songs, and women who display their adornment and are uncovered?
The Shaykh:
What?
The questioner:
He asks: How can one be protected in this time when temptations have multiplied, including magazines, films, images, satellite channels, songs, women who display their adornment and are uncovered, and the ease of committing forbidden acts? Is it obligatory for a young man to marry so that, with Allah’s permission, he is safe from forbidden acts? Is the approval of the parents required for marriage?
The Shaykh:
Everything mentioned necessitates caution. The prevalence of evils and wrongs obliges the believer to be cautious and to ask his Lord for success, guidance, and protection. As evils increase, fear must increase, as He the Exalted said:[Ibrahim 14:14] and He said: [Ar-Rahman 55:46]. When He mentioned the people of Paradise, He said: [Al-Bayyinah 98:8]. As evils increase, one must fear his Lord, be cautious, take the means of salvation, avoid the causes of destruction, keep the company of the righteous, and avoid the company of the wicked. One must take the necessary means; if he is of marriageable age, he should strive to marry. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "O young men, , Sunan an-Nasa'i 3208Sahih (Darussalam)." It is not permissible to obey a parent in abandoning marriage; obedience is only in what is good. A parent who orders one not to marry is not to be obeyed. If a young man is able to marry, let him marry. Obedience is only in what is good. However, he should seek a righteous woman whom his father approves of, seeking a good woman so that he does not combine his desire and inclination with his father's anger. He should seek a good woman so that his father approves of her, so that he achieves both marriage and dutifulness to his parents. If his father completely prevents him from marrying, and he is able to marry, he is not to be obeyed; rather, he must marry, seek chastity, address his father in the best manner, and explain that this is an obligation upon him and that it is not permissible for the father to prevent him in such a case. He should speak to him with kind words, but he must not obey him in abandoning marriage.
The presenter:
May Allah bless you, and may Allah send prayers and blessings upon our Prophet Muhammad and his family.
He asks: How can one be protected from this age in which temptations have multiplied, such as magazines, films, pictures, satellite dishes, songs, and women who display their adornment and are uncovered?
The Shaykh:
What?
The questioner:
He asks: How can one be protected in this time when temptations have multiplied, including magazines, films, images, satellite channels, songs, women who display their adornment and are uncovered, and the ease of committing forbidden acts? Is it obligatory for a young man to marry so that, with Allah’s permission, he is safe from forbidden acts? Is the approval of the parents required for marriage?
The Shaykh:
Everything mentioned necessitates caution. The prevalence of evils and wrongs obliges the believer to be cautious and to ask his Lord for success, guidance, and protection. As evils increase, fear must increase, as He the Exalted said:
That is for he who fears My position and fears
ذَٰلِكَ لِمَنْ خَافَ مَقَامِي وَخَافَBut for he who has feared the position of his Lord are two gardens -
وَلِمَنْ خَافَ مَقَامَ رَبِّهِ جَنَّتَانِThat is for whoever has feared his Lord.
ذَٰلِكَ لِمَنْ خَشِيَ رَبَّهُWhoever is able to do so, let him marry, for it is more effective in lowering the gaze and guarding the private parts
من استطاع الماء فليتزوج، فإنه أغض البصر، وأحصر الفرجand whoever cannot then he should fast, for it will be a restraint (wija') for him.
لم يستطع فعليه بالصوم فإنه له وجاءThe presenter:
May Allah bless you, and may Allah send prayers and blessings upon our Prophet Muhammad and his family.
Source
التعليق على الجواب الكافي لمن سأل عن الدواء الشافي [ الداء والدواء ]، مفاسد عشق الصور — islamhouse.com (14:49)
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