A wife leaving for a wedding reception without her husband's permission and obeying her mother
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Question:
Honorable Shaykh, may Allah grant you success. The questioner says: I forbade my wife from going to a wedding hall to attend a wedding, but she did not obey me. She went and said that her mother wanted her to go with her, and that if she obeyed me, she would be undutiful to her mother.
Answer:
No, it does not make her undutiful to her mother. If the reception contains what is wrong, then going to it is wrong, and she should not obey her mother in that. She should advise her mother not to go. If she refrains from going, she is doing well because she seeks safety from what is wrong. That is from one aspect. The other aspect is that she does not leave your house except with your permission, because you have authority over her. It is not permissible for her to leave her husband's house except with his permission.
Honorable Shaykh, may Allah grant you success. The questioner says: I forbade my wife from going to a wedding hall to attend a wedding, but she did not obey me. She went and said that her mother wanted her to go with her, and that if she obeyed me, she would be undutiful to her mother.
Answer:
No, it does not make her undutiful to her mother. If the reception contains what is wrong, then going to it is wrong, and she should not obey her mother in that. She should advise her mother not to go. If she refrains from going, she is doing well because she seeks safety from what is wrong. That is from one aspect. The other aspect is that she does not leave your house except with your permission, because you have authority over her. It is not permissible for her to leave her husband's house except with his permission.
Source
شرح إغاثة اللهفان من مصائد الشيطان لابن القيم، الباب الأول في انقسام القلوب إلى صحيح وسقيم وميت — islamhouse.com (1:08:42)
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