A Woman of Advanced Age Refusing Her Husband’s Bed
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Question:
Honorable Shaykh, may Allah grant you success. If an elderly woman refuses her husband’s request to spend the night with him in bed because she is old and has no desire for it, does she sin by doing so? And what is your guidance on this matter?
Answer:
Yes, she sins by doing so. It is obligatory for her to obey him, whether she is old or young, unless there is harm to her. As for harm, that is not allowed,Sunan Ibn Majah 2340Da'if (Darussalam). But as long as there is no harm to her, and her only excuse is that she is old, that is not an excuse. Yes.
Honorable Shaykh, may Allah grant you success. If an elderly woman refuses her husband’s request to spend the night with him in bed because she is old and has no desire for it, does she sin by doing so? And what is your guidance on this matter?
Answer:
Yes, she sins by doing so. It is obligatory for her to obey him, whether she is old or young, unless there is harm to her. As for harm, that is not allowed,
It was narrated from 'Ubadah bin Samit that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) ruled: “There should be neither harming nor reciprocating harm.”
لا ضرر ولا ضرار
Source
شرح إغاثة اللهفان من مصائد الشيطان لابن القيم، الباب الرابع في أن حياة القلب وإشراقه مادة كل خير فيه — islamhouse.com (1:02:49)
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