Expelling an adult son who abandons prayer from the home
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The questioner:
Honorable Shaykh, may Allah grant you success. In a previous lesson, you mentioned that if an adult son who does not pray at all is able to work, his father has the right to expel him from the home.
The Shaykh:
Is it obligatory for his father? Is it obligatory for his father to expel him from the home if he refuses to pray? Or does he leave him to live on his own, managing his own affairs, or perhaps Allah the Exalted guides him? But if he is not able to support himself, then he must provide for him while continuing to call him to prayer and enjoining him to pray. Yes.
The questioner:
Then he says, may Allah preserve you. And you mentioned this matter in a lesson of mine for some common people, so one of them said to me. He says: And you mentioned this matter in a lesson for the common people.
The Shaykh:
Yes.
The questioner:
So one of them objected to me and said that this might be a cause for the son to become even more deviant.
The Shaykh:
He is deviant, he is deviant; the one who abandons prayer is deviant. What is left after the abandonment of prayer? So he is deviant, and you are not able to guide him,[Al-Qasas 28:56], [Al-Qalam 68:7-8]. It is permissible for you to shelter a person, even if he is among the closest people to you, to shelter him in your home while he does not pray, abandoning prayer? This corrupts the people of the house as well; it affects them. So he is a corrupting element. So if he is able to live on his own, or if he is an employee and has what suffices him, then you expel him from the house so that he does not burn you and your house with his abandonment of prayer and your leniency toward him. And if you expel him and he goes out, because there is no danger of hunger for him, because he has a salary, he has something to rely on. Yes.
Honorable Shaykh, may Allah grant you success. In a previous lesson, you mentioned that if an adult son who does not pray at all is able to work, his father has the right to expel him from the home.
The Shaykh:
Is it obligatory for his father? Is it obligatory for his father to expel him from the home if he refuses to pray? Or does he leave him to live on his own, managing his own affairs, or perhaps Allah the Exalted guides him? But if he is not able to support himself, then he must provide for him while continuing to call him to prayer and enjoining him to pray. Yes.
The questioner:
Then he says, may Allah preserve you. And you mentioned this matter in a lesson of mine for some common people, so one of them said to me. He says: And you mentioned this matter in a lesson for the common people.
The Shaykh:
Yes.
The questioner:
So one of them objected to me and said that this might be a cause for the son to become even more deviant.
The Shaykh:
He is deviant, he is deviant; the one who abandons prayer is deviant. What is left after the abandonment of prayer? So he is deviant, and you are not able to guide him,
Indeed, [O Muhammad], you do not guide whom you like, but Allah guides whom He wills
إِنَّكَ لَا تَهْدِي مَنْ أَحْبَبْتَ وَلَٰكِنَّ اللَّهَ يَهْدِي مَن يَشَاءُand He is most knowing of the [rightly] guided. (8)
وَهُوَ أَعْلَمُ بِالْمُهْتَدِينَ فَلَا
Source
شرح إغاثة اللهفان من مصائد الشيطان لابن القيم، الباب العاشر في علامات مرض القلب وصحته — islamhouse.com (58:42)
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