Accepting a suitor who smokes
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Question:
Honorable Shaykh, may Allah grant you success. This is a woman asking, and she says: What is your advice to me? She says: I have been delayed in getting married, and a young man who smokes has proposed to me. Is it permissible for me to accept him? This woman says: What is your advice to me? My marriage has been delayed, and I have not yet married, and I am getting older. A young man who smokes has proposed to me. Is it permissible for me to accept him?
Answer:
Make it a condition that he quits smoking. Make it a condition, because this harms you, harms him, and harms your children as well. Make it a condition that he quits smoking, and if he quits, marry him. Yes.
Honorable Shaykh, may Allah grant you success. This is a woman asking, and she says: What is your advice to me? She says: I have been delayed in getting married, and a young man who smokes has proposed to me. Is it permissible for me to accept him? This woman says: What is your advice to me? My marriage has been delayed, and I have not yet married, and I am getting older. A young man who smokes has proposed to me. Is it permissible for me to accept him?
Answer:
Make it a condition that he quits smoking. Make it a condition, because this harms you, harms him, and harms your children as well. Make it a condition that he quits smoking, and if he quits, marry him. Yes.
Source
شرح إغاثة اللهفان من مصائد الشيطان لابن القيم، ذكر الآثار عن التابعين — islamhouse.com (1:16:34)
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