Combining the prohibition of proposing to a woman who has already been proposed to with the hadith of Fatimah bint Qays
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The questioner:
Honorable Shaykh, may Allah grant you success. A questioner says: How do you reconcile the prohibition of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) against proposing to a woman who has already been proposed to, with the hadith of the woman who said to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him): “O Messenger of Allah, Mu‘awiyah and Abū al-Jahm have proposed to me.” So he (peace and blessings be upon him) proposed her to Usāmah and said
The Shaykh:
Because she came to consult the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him), and Usāmah was better than the other two, so he advised her with what was best for her. And it was as the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) wished; Usāmah (may Allah be pleased with him) loved the Messenger and his family.
The presenter:
Honorable Shaykh, may Allah grant you success.
The Shaykh:
If she had not come to consult him, the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) would not have intervened in her matter. But she came to consult him, so he advised her with what was best for her. And this is your responsibility; the one who consults you must be shown what you believe to be the best for him.
Honorable Shaykh, may Allah grant you success. A questioner says: How do you reconcile the prohibition of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) against proposing to a woman who has already been proposed to, with the hadith of the woman who said to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him): “O Messenger of Allah, Mu‘awiyah and Abū al-Jahm have proposed to me.” So he (peace and blessings be upon him) proposed her to Usāmah and said
Marry Usamah.
انكحي أسامة.The Shaykh:
Because she came to consult the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him), and Usāmah was better than the other two, so he advised her with what was best for her. And it was as the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) wished; Usāmah (may Allah be pleased with him) loved the Messenger and his family.
The presenter:
Honorable Shaykh, may Allah grant you success.
The Shaykh:
If she had not come to consult him, the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) would not have intervened in her matter. But she came to consult him, so he advised her with what was best for her. And this is your responsibility; the one who consults you must be shown what you believe to be the best for him.
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شرح إغاثة اللهفان من مصائد الشيطان لابن القيم، تابع فصل وإذا تدبرت الشريعة وجدتها قد أتت بسد الذرائع إلى المحرمات — islamhouse.com (47:14)
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