The Ruling on Disagreement Between a Wife and Her Mother-in-Law
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The questioner:
A questioner says: I live in a house that is far from my father.
The Shaykh:
What? He says: I live in a house that is a little far from my father. Or his father? Yes, yes. And the reason is a disagreement that occurred between my wife and my mother, and I left the town. Yes, and the reason? And the reason is a disagreement that occurred between my wife and my mother, and I left the home to prevent problems, and my wife does not greet my mother when she sees her, and she always pressures me to marry [another woman] so that she can serve her, even though they need my presence in the house, may Allah have mercy on the scholar.
The questioner:
Even though they need my presence in the house, do they not live [well]?
The Shaykh:
He should reconcile between him and your mother, meaning he should reconcile between the wife and the mother. Likewise, his father should help them in this, perhaps Allah will guide everyone, the husband and his father, and whoever among his brothers or maternal uncles or paternal uncles is able to reconcile between the mother and the wife, so that he returns to the house, and is with his father and mother. The wife must be considerate of his father and mother, and treat them with kindness so that the family is not divided. She must strive to do good deeds, good work, and speak good words so that the family is united and so that separation or divorce does not occur. She should advise, she should advise, she should advise. The mother should also be directed to good, not be harsh, and she should be tolerant so that the entire family is united.
The mother should seek reward from Allah, and not be strict in some matters, and the wife should listen and obey her husband and stay with his mother. Both of them should cooperate in good. May Allah reward you, good. Satan must be fought against his whispers and incitements; because he is the one who calls for division. We ask Allah for guidance for everyone.
The presenter:
May Allah reward you,
A questioner says: I live in a house that is far from my father.
The Shaykh:
What? He says: I live in a house that is a little far from my father. Or his father? Yes, yes. And the reason is a disagreement that occurred between my wife and my mother, and I left the town. Yes, and the reason? And the reason is a disagreement that occurred between my wife and my mother, and I left the home to prevent problems, and my wife does not greet my mother when she sees her, and she always pressures me to marry [another woman] so that she can serve her, even though they need my presence in the house, may Allah have mercy on the scholar.
The questioner:
Even though they need my presence in the house, do they not live [well]?
The Shaykh:
He should reconcile between him and your mother, meaning he should reconcile between the wife and the mother. Likewise, his father should help them in this, perhaps Allah will guide everyone, the husband and his father, and whoever among his brothers or maternal uncles or paternal uncles is able to reconcile between the mother and the wife, so that he returns to the house, and is with his father and mother. The wife must be considerate of his father and mother, and treat them with kindness so that the family is not divided. She must strive to do good deeds, good work, and speak good words so that the family is united and so that separation or divorce does not occur. She should advise, she should advise, she should advise. The mother should also be directed to good, not be harsh, and she should be tolerant so that the entire family is united.
The mother should seek reward from Allah, and not be strict in some matters, and the wife should listen and obey her husband and stay with his mother. Both of them should cooperate in good. May Allah reward you, good. Satan must be fought against his whispers and incitements; because he is the one who calls for division. We ask Allah for guidance for everyone.
The presenter:
May Allah reward you,
Source
محاضرات عبر الهاتف [ 04 ] الاستقامة على دين الله — islamhouse.com (17:04)
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