The Order of Admonishing, Boycotting, and Striking the Rebellious Wife
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Question:
He says: Honorable Shaykh, may Allah grant you success, regarding the words of the Exalted and Majestic concerning the rebellious wife[An-Nisa 4:34] Is this order obligatory such that if one of these things is done before the other, the person becomes sinful?
Answer:
Yes, it is not permissible, it is not permissible to do one of them before the other. This is a progression from the easiest to the easiest, a progression that must be followed, yes.
He says: Honorable Shaykh, may Allah grant you success, regarding the words of the Exalted and Majestic concerning the rebellious wife
[first] advise them; [then if they persist], forsake them in bed; and [finally], strike them
فَعِظُوهُنَّ وَاهْجُرُوهُنَّ فِي الْمَضَاجِعِ وَاضْرِبُوهُنَّAnswer:
Yes, it is not permissible, it is not permissible to do one of them before the other. This is a progression from the easiest to the easiest, a progression that must be followed, yes.
Source
شرح كتاب المنتقى من أخبار المصطفى صلى الله عليه وسلم، بداية من باب الوضوء من مس المرأة — islamhouse.com (1:01:14)
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