The Wife’s Refusal of Her Husband and Her Verbal Abuse of Him
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Question:
Honorable Shaykh, may Allah grant you success. The questioner says: My father, may Allah guide him, often uses foul language toward my mother. It has now been ten years, and she does not allow him to have conjugal relations with her, even though she is living with him in the house. His question is: Is my mother sinful for this action? And what is obligatory in this matter?
Answer:
Yes, this is marital defiance (nushuz) if she prevents him from his right over her, or from the most important of his rights, which is also the bed. She is a defiant wife who disobeys Allah and His Messenger. She must repent and allow him to have his right over her. He may be excused in his speech toward her because she erred in his right. Yes, is she the cause of this? Yes.
Honorable Shaykh, may Allah grant you success. The questioner says: My father, may Allah guide him, often uses foul language toward my mother. It has now been ten years, and she does not allow him to have conjugal relations with her, even though she is living with him in the house. His question is: Is my mother sinful for this action? And what is obligatory in this matter?
Answer:
Yes, this is marital defiance (nushuz) if she prevents him from his right over her, or from the most important of his rights, which is also the bed. She is a defiant wife who disobeys Allah and His Messenger. She must repent and allow him to have his right over her. He may be excused in his speech toward her because she erred in his right. Yes, is she the cause of this? Yes.
Source
شرح كتاب المنتقى من أخبار المصطفى صلى الله عليه وسلم، بداية من أبواب اجتناب النجاسات ومواضع الصلوات — islamhouse.com (1:09:03)
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