Women's Jealousy Regarding Plural Marriage
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The questioner:
Honorable Shaykh Ahmad (may Allah have mercy on him), women have developed a strong jealousy regarding the number of husbands, to the extent that this aversion leads them to accept the opinion of others, such that they force a woman to prevent her husband from marrying another woman, even if he has the means to do so, and even if he already has a wife. What is the position of those fathers, husbands, and parents regarding the women you mentioned? And what are the reasons for this aversion, even though it is from the legislation of Allah? Does this aversion reach the point of hating the Shari'ah?
The Shaykh:
No, this is a jealousy and a natural disposition in women that does not reach the point of hating the Shari'ah, because this jealousy is in them without their choosing it. As for the position of men, they must not be affected by it; rather, they should marry and practice plural marriage if they have the ability, and they should not be affected by the women's hesitation or their words. As for their supplications, they are not acceptable because they are supplications of injustice, for the woman is unjust in this supplication, because she is supplicating against one who does not deserve such a supplication. So, it will not affect him, if Allah wills, because he has not wronged her. However, he must be just; he must be just with his wives and not be unfair. This is what is obligatory upon him.
Another questioner:
I obtained it on the condition that he does not marry another woman.
The Shaykh:
If she stipulated that he not marry another woman, he has the right to marry, but she has the right to annul the marriage if she wishes, and it is not permissible for him to marry.
Honorable Shaykh Ahmad (may Allah have mercy on him), women have developed a strong jealousy regarding the number of husbands, to the extent that this aversion leads them to accept the opinion of others, such that they force a woman to prevent her husband from marrying another woman, even if he has the means to do so, and even if he already has a wife. What is the position of those fathers, husbands, and parents regarding the women you mentioned? And what are the reasons for this aversion, even though it is from the legislation of Allah? Does this aversion reach the point of hating the Shari'ah?
The Shaykh:
No, this is a jealousy and a natural disposition in women that does not reach the point of hating the Shari'ah, because this jealousy is in them without their choosing it. As for the position of men, they must not be affected by it; rather, they should marry and practice plural marriage if they have the ability, and they should not be affected by the women's hesitation or their words. As for their supplications, they are not acceptable because they are supplications of injustice, for the woman is unjust in this supplication, because she is supplicating against one who does not deserve such a supplication. So, it will not affect him, if Allah wills, because he has not wronged her. However, he must be just; he must be just with his wives and not be unfair. This is what is obligatory upon him.
Another questioner:
I obtained it on the condition that he does not marry another woman.
The Shaykh:
If she stipulated that he not marry another woman, he has the right to marry, but she has the right to annul the marriage if she wishes, and it is not permissible for him to marry.
Source
شرح بلوغ المرام من أدلة الأحكام [ صالح الفوزان ]، تابع باب المياه - 4 — islamhouse.com (31:28)
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