The ruling on informing a visitor of a grave and directing the salam specifically to it
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Question:
It is not a matter of concern. If you are certain and someone asks you, “Is it forty?”—meaning, is it forty (may Allah be pleased with him)—then you may inform him, yes? If you are certain and someone asks you, “Is it forty?”—meaning, is it forty (may Allah be pleased with him)—then you may inform him.
Answer:
If you know the grave, there is no harm in informing him, unless you know from his condition that he is superstitious, in which case you should not inform him. However, if you know that he is from the people of tawhid (the oneness of Allah) and the people of sound creed, and he wants to direct a specific du'a' (supplication) and salam to this deceased person or this grave, there is no harm in that. Yes.
It is not a matter of concern. If you are certain and someone asks you, “Is it forty?”—meaning, is it forty (may Allah be pleased with him)—then you may inform him, yes? If you are certain and someone asks you, “Is it forty?”—meaning, is it forty (may Allah be pleased with him)—then you may inform him.
Answer:
If you know the grave, there is no harm in informing him, unless you know from his condition that he is superstitious, in which case you should not inform him. However, if you know that he is from the people of tawhid (the oneness of Allah) and the people of sound creed, and he wants to direct a specific du'a' (supplication) and salam to this deceased person or this grave, there is no harm in that. Yes.
Source
شرح بلوغ المرام من أدلة الأحكام [ صالح الفوزان ]، تابع كتاب الجنائز - 3 — islamhouse.com (16:37)
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