The factor shifting the command regarding the wedding feast from obligation to recommendation
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Question:
Honorable Shaykh! The saying of the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him), “Give a feast, even if it is only a sheep,” is a command from the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him). So what is the factor that shifts it from obligation to recommendation?
Answer:
Yes, it is a command for recommendation. The evidence for this is that if someone did not hold a feast, no one would say to him, “You left off the feast.” The Muslims have reached consensus that if one leaves off the feast, they do not blame him, nor do they say anything about it, nor do they compel him to do it. This is evidence of its being recommended. This is also among the matters of proper conduct; in matters of proper conduct, commands are for recommendation. Yes.
Honorable Shaykh! The saying of the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him), “Give a feast, even if it is only a sheep,” is a command from the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him). So what is the factor that shifts it from obligation to recommendation?
Answer:
Yes, it is a command for recommendation. The evidence for this is that if someone did not hold a feast, no one would say to him, “You left off the feast.” The Muslims have reached consensus that if one leaves off the feast, they do not blame him, nor do they say anything about it, nor do they compel him to do it. This is evidence of its being recommended. This is also among the matters of proper conduct; in matters of proper conduct, commands are for recommendation. Yes.
Source
شرح بلوغ المرام من أدلة الأحكام [ صالح الفوزان ]، تتمة باب عشرة النساء — islamhouse.com (1:11:23)
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