The Ruling on Admiration and the Relationship of Love Between Women
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The questioner:
Honorable Shaykh, there is admiration between a girl and another girl in a women’s community, for example, at a university. Some of the sisters say that the admiration is based on deeds, manners, and respect, while others base it on personality and external appearance.
The Shaykh:
Now, we hear that the issue of relationships, relationships of love, and passion between them has become widespread in girls’ schools and in women’s gatherings. This is forbidden, forbidden. The issue of passion, romantic love, and love causes problems, so it is not permissible for women to do this because it causes problems, leads to falling into major sins, and leads to forbidden matters. Yes.
The questioner:
Honorable Shaykh.
The Shaykh:
We hear that romantic relationships and love affairs have become widespread among them, and this may lead some of them to feel shy of one another because of it, and it stirs up their desires among themselves. This is forbidden; this is a trial, may Allah protect us from it. Yes, so the woman is required to lower her gaze. She is required to lower her gaze if this passion and love causes her harm.[An-Nur 24:31] She is required to lower her gaze even from a woman like herself if she is attracted to her and loves her. She is required to lower her gaze. In particular, lowering the gaze is not just about men; rather, it includes women as well if looking at them is a trial.
Honorable Shaykh, there is admiration between a girl and another girl in a women’s community, for example, at a university. Some of the sisters say that the admiration is based on deeds, manners, and respect, while others base it on personality and external appearance.
The Shaykh:
Now, we hear that the issue of relationships, relationships of love, and passion between them has become widespread in girls’ schools and in women’s gatherings. This is forbidden, forbidden. The issue of passion, romantic love, and love causes problems, so it is not permissible for women to do this because it causes problems, leads to falling into major sins, and leads to forbidden matters. Yes.
The questioner:
Honorable Shaykh.
The Shaykh:
We hear that romantic relationships and love affairs have become widespread among them, and this may lead some of them to feel shy of one another because of it, and it stirs up their desires among themselves. This is forbidden; this is a trial, may Allah protect us from it. Yes, so the woman is required to lower her gaze. She is required to lower her gaze if this passion and love causes her harm.
And tell the believing women to reduce [some] of their vision and guard their private parts
وَقُل لِّلْمُؤْمِنَاتِ يَغْضُضْنَ مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِنَّ وَيَحْفَظْنَ فُرُوجَهُنَّ
Source
شرح بلوغ المرام من أدلة الأحكام [ صالح الفوزان ]، تتمة باب العدة والإحداد — islamhouse.com (1:01:39)
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