Advice for two brothers who are boycotting each other, neither of whom returns the salam to the other
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Question:
Honorable Shaykh, there are some brothers who display the attribute of commitment, such as growing the beard, but one of them has not returned the salam to the other brother for months, claiming that this second brother has wronged him. We ask for advice for the two brothers, and they are listening now.
Answer:
There is a hadith from the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) regarding this, an authentic hadith:Sahih Muslim 2561 Sahih Muslim 2560a It is not permissible for you to boycott for more than three days; rather, reconciliation is obligatory. The three days are a dispensation; if you did not boycott at all, that would be better. But if it is absolutely necessary, your dispensation is only three days, so that what is in your heart may be resolved. If you abandon the boycott entirely, that is better.
Honorable Shaykh, there are some brothers who display the attribute of commitment, such as growing the beard, but one of them has not returned the salam to the other brother for months, claiming that this second brother has wronged him. We ask for advice for the two brothers, and they are listening now.
Answer:
There is a hadith from the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) regarding this, an authentic hadith:
It is not permissible for a Muslim to have estranged relations with his brother beyond three
لا يحل لمؤمن أن يهجر أخاه فوق ثلاثIt is not permissible for a Muslim to have estranged relations with his brother beyond three nights, the one turning one way and the other turning the other way when they meet; the better of the two is one who is the first to give a greeting.
لا يحل يعني حرام أن يهجر أخاه فوق ثلاث يلتقيان فيعرض هذا ويعرض هذا وخيرهما الذي يبدأ بالسلام
Source
شرح بلوغ المرام من أدلة الأحكام [ صالح الفوزان ]، تتمة باب الرهب من مساوئ الأخلاق — islamhouse.com (1:09:01)
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