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﴿ فَاسْأَلُوا أَهْلَ الذِّكْرِ إِن كُنتُمْ لَا تَعْلَمُونَ ﴾

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Advice for one who has repented and fears relapse because of the atmosphere in his home

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Question:
Your Eminence, father, I committed some sins that led to my admission to the hospital, and I praise Allah that the outcome was good, for Allah granted me guidance. However, there are many matters in our home that I fear will cause me to relapse, especially since I am unable to change them. I have an uncle who does not object to my staying with him, and his home is a home of good, but my father opposes this. What is your opinion?

Answer:
We ask Allah to prevent us and you from [sin] and to grant us repentance. How many sins have led their perpetrator to good when he repented to Allah? Praise be to Allah; if Allah grants us repentance, the evil that has passed is removed. Allah, Glorified and Exalted, said:
Say, "O My servants who have transgressed against themselves [by sinning], do not despair of the mercy of Allah. Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Indeed, it is He who is the Forgiving, the Merciful."قُلْ يَا عِبَادِيَ الَّذِينَ أَسْرَفُوا عَلَىٰ أَنفُسِهِمْ لَا تَقْنَطُوا مِن رَّحْمَةِ اللَّهِ إِنَّ اللَّهَ يَغْفِرُ الذُّنُوبَ جَمِيعًا إِنَّهُ هُوَ الْغَفُورُ الرَّحِيمُ
[Az-Zumar 39:53]
He forbade His servants from despair, which is hopelessness regarding mercy, because of sin. Do not be deceived by the mercy of Allah. He said: "Do not be deceived"
and despair not of relief from Allahوَلَا تَيْأَسُوا مِن رَّوْحِ اللَّهِ
[Yusuf 12:87]
, and He, the Exalted, said:
And turn to Allah in repentance, all of you, O believersوَتُوبُوا إِلَى اللَّهِ جَمِيعًا أَيُّهَ الْمُؤْمِنُونَ
[An-Nur 24:31]
He informed you that you will be relieved, so repentance wipes out what came before it. Praise be to Allah. Therefore, the one who repents must be steadfast in his repentance and persist in it. If your parents do not allow you to leave them, you must be patient and strive to please them and be dutiful to them. If there are any sins, beware of sins; do not sit with them while they are committing them, and do not approve of the sin. Pray for their guidance. If your parents, or your father, allow you to live with your uncle, and if your uncle's house is better, there is no harm. If he refuses, live with your father, and strive to be dutiful to him, advise him, and direct him to good. If there is evil in the house, do not be present for it. If there is evil, be present when sitting with them regarding the evil, and excuse yourself so that the gathering does not contain evil. Yes.
Source وبالوالدين إحسانا — islamhouse.com (30:56)

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