Advice on Inquiring About the Religion of the Prospective Husband
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Question:
The questioner says: It has become widespread recently, and in these times, among some families, and unfortunately, the failure to inquire about a man when he proposes to marry their daughter. They do not ask about his prayer? Is he one of those who are diligent in maintaining it, or one of those who are negligent about it? They are content with knowing that he has a high-ranking job, and that his father and mother are good people. What is your advice to these people? May Allah bless you.
Answer:
This person asks, saying that many people today, when their daughter, sister, or another female relative is proposed for, do not ask about the prospective husband: is he a person of religion, one who is diligent in maintaining the prayers? Instead, they ask about his job, his mother, his father, and the like. There is no doubt that this is a great deficiency and an error. It is obligatory to pay attention to inquiring about religion, from the perspective of both the man and the woman, the man and the woman. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "A woman is married for four things: for her wealth, for her beauty, for her lineage, and for her religion." Then he said: "So seize the one with religion, lest your hands be dusted." And so, a man is desired for his wealth, or his beauty, or his job, or his lineage, or his religion. But the most important thing is religion, because if he is bad in religion, he will drag the woman into a state like his own. One should care for the good man who is sound in religion, and everything else is secondary. But the most important thing is that he is religious, prays, and is known for good. This is obligatory upon the guardian of the woman and the family of the woman. This is a trust that they must pay attention to.
The questioner says: It has become widespread recently, and in these times, among some families, and unfortunately, the failure to inquire about a man when he proposes to marry their daughter. They do not ask about his prayer? Is he one of those who are diligent in maintaining it, or one of those who are negligent about it? They are content with knowing that he has a high-ranking job, and that his father and mother are good people. What is your advice to these people? May Allah bless you.
Answer:
This person asks, saying that many people today, when their daughter, sister, or another female relative is proposed for, do not ask about the prospective husband: is he a person of religion, one who is diligent in maintaining the prayers? Instead, they ask about his job, his mother, his father, and the like. There is no doubt that this is a great deficiency and an error. It is obligatory to pay attention to inquiring about religion, from the perspective of both the man and the woman, the man and the woman. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "A woman is married for four things: for her wealth, for her beauty, for her lineage, and for her religion." Then he said: "So seize the one with religion, lest your hands be dusted." And so, a man is desired for his wealth, or his beauty, or his job, or his lineage, or his religion. But the most important thing is religion, because if he is bad in religion, he will drag the woman into a state like his own. One should care for the good man who is sound in religion, and everything else is secondary. But the most important thing is that he is religious, prays, and is known for good. This is obligatory upon the guardian of the woman and the family of the woman. This is a trust that they must pay attention to.
Source
فتاوى الصلاة — islamhouse.com (33:16)
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