Dealing with relatives who seek to separate a married couple
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Question:
This is an off-topic question. He says: I am a committed young man, and I fear Allah, and praise be to Allah for that. My problem is that I am married, and my wife and I are living a happy life under the banner of faith, praise be to Allah. However, we have relatives who are trying to cause separation between me and my wife. They envy the happiness we are living, and they slander us behind our backs to the extent that they have made all the relatives unable to stand us. What should we do regarding them? Should we visit them, or should we cut them off?
Answer:
Visit them, and perhaps Allah will remove the hatred they have for you. Visit them, maintain ties with them, and honor them. Indeed, Allah the Exalted says:[Fussilat 41:34] If you meet evil with good, then Allah will help you.
It was reported in a hadith that a man said to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him): "I have relatives who cut me off, yet I maintain ties with them; they treat me badly, yet I treat them well." He said (peace and blessings be upon him): This means that a person meets evil with good, especially with relatives. If one practices excellence, this will cause them to repent, leave that behavior, and feel ashamed. This is the correct remedy.
This is an off-topic question. He says: I am a committed young man, and I fear Allah, and praise be to Allah for that. My problem is that I am married, and my wife and I are living a happy life under the banner of faith, praise be to Allah. However, we have relatives who are trying to cause separation between me and my wife. They envy the happiness we are living, and they slander us behind our backs to the extent that they have made all the relatives unable to stand us. What should we do regarding them? Should we visit them, or should we cut them off?
Answer:
Visit them, and perhaps Allah will remove the hatred they have for you. Visit them, maintain ties with them, and honor them. Indeed, Allah the Exalted says:
And not equal are the good deed and the bad. Repel [evil] by that [deed] which is better; and thereupon the one whom between you and him is enmity [will become] as though he was a devoted friend.
وَلَا تَسْتَوِي الْحَسَنَةُ وَلَا السَّيِّئَةُ ادْفَعْ بِالَّتِي هِيَ أَحْسَنُ فَإِذَا الَّذِي بَيْنَكَ وَبَيْنَهُ عَدَاوَةٌ كَأَنَّهُ وَلِيٌّ حَمِيمٌIt was reported in a hadith that a man said to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him): "I have relatives who cut me off, yet I maintain ties with them; they treat me badly, yet I treat them well." He said (peace and blessings be upon him):
If you are as you say, then you are only making them more insolent, and Allah will continue to be a supporter for you against them.
إن كنت كما تقول فإنما تسفهم المل ولا يزال معك عليه من الله ظهير
Source
السحر والشعوذة وخطورتهما على الفرد والمجتمع — islamhouse.com (1:20:47)
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