Caution Regarding Refraining from Marriage with One Told She Was Breastfed with Him
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Question:
May Allah reward you with good and do you well. After this, a message reached the program from Jizan, and its sender is a listener who says: I am a young man of eighteen years old. I proposed to my maternal uncle's daughter and considered marriage, but something prevented me from doing so. A woman told me that she had breastfed me and breastfed her, so I believed her. However, something occurred that made me doubt this matter, as my father said that when she breastfed me, she was very old, her husband had passed away ten years prior, and her children were married at that time. I ask for your guidance in this matter, especially since she did not breastfeed the girl except once or twice. Is she my sister through breastfeeding, or should I proceed with my proposal? May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
As long as she testified that she breastfed you and breastfed her, and your father also confirmed this, although he said she was advanced in age and had no husband because her husband had died, it means that this breastfeeding was testified to by two people: the woman and the man who is your father. Thus, the breastfeeding is established. As for the fact that they do not know the number of times, this gives rise to doubt. This doubt should be avoided out of caution and scrupulousness.
The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Leave that which makes you doubt for that which does not make you doubt.
He (peace and blessings be upon him) said:Bulugh al-Maram 16:32 At the very least, this breastfeeding gives rise to doubt because its number is not known, so avoiding it is safer and clears the conscience. There are many women, and praise be to Allah. Yes.
May Allah reward you with good and do you well. After this, a message reached the program from Jizan, and its sender is a listener who says: I am a young man of eighteen years old. I proposed to my maternal uncle's daughter and considered marriage, but something prevented me from doing so. A woman told me that she had breastfed me and breastfed her, so I believed her. However, something occurred that made me doubt this matter, as my father said that when she breastfed me, she was very old, her husband had passed away ten years prior, and her children were married at that time. I ask for your guidance in this matter, especially since she did not breastfeed the girl except once or twice. Is she my sister through breastfeeding, or should I proceed with my proposal? May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
As long as she testified that she breastfed you and breastfed her, and your father also confirmed this, although he said she was advanced in age and had no husband because her husband had died, it means that this breastfeeding was testified to by two people: the woman and the man who is your father. Thus, the breastfeeding is established. As for the fact that they do not know the number of times, this gives rise to doubt. This doubt should be avoided out of caution and scrupulousness.
The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Leave that which makes you doubt for that which does not make you doubt.
He (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
So he, who saves himself from these doubtful things, saves his religion and his honor (i.e. keeps them blameless). And he who indulges in these doubtful things is like a shepherd who pastures (his animals) near the Hima (private pasture) of someone else and at any moment he is liable to get in it.
فمن اتقى الشبهات فقد استبرا لدينه وعرضه ومن وقع في الشبهات وقع في الحرام
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، 4705- الاحتياط في ترك الزواج بمن قيل له بأنه رضع معها - الشيخ صالح الفوزان — youtube.com
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