Advice on Proceeding with a Misar Marriage

The questioner:
He says: Honorable Shaykh, may Allah grant you success, I am about to enter into a misar marriage.

The Shaykh:
Yes.

The questioner:
I am about to enter into a misar marriage, so what do you advise me? Does it have specific conditions?

The Shaykh:
We advise you not to marry a misar marriage. Marry a regular marriage, take your wife with you to your house, and if children come, they will be in your house, and you and she will raise them. You will find comfort in her and she in you, and she will be a place of rest for you. As for this misar marriage, the benefits of marriage do not result from it.
The benefits of marriage do not result from it, or rather, the loss of the children in the future results from it, and other things. It also results in the loss of the wife; you have no authority over her, and you do not know where she goes or how she spends her time. What is this marriage? It is merely a contract. As for the rulings of marriage, they are delayed. Such a thing is never appropriate. It is never appropriate. The wife should be in her husband's house, and the children should be in the father's house. The husband should be a guardian over his wife; he does not leave her so that he does not know where she goes or who her companion is. She goes wherever she pleases, and perhaps she will fall into matters that are not permissible. Because he has no control over her and does not know about her, this is a matter that leads to many dangers. Yes.

The questioner:
Is it permissible to raise the hands in supplication after the obligatory prayer?

The Shaykh:
They want, with the misar marriage, to strip the husband of his authority over his wife. That is what they want: to strip the husband of his authority over his wife. What about the loss of the children that results from it? It also results in the loss of the husband's comfort with his wife and her comfort with him, so that each becomes a source of comfort for the other. Yes.