A young man, 18 years old, whose father has stopped providing for him and his mother. What is your guidance?
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Question:
I am eighteen years old. My father has stopped providing for me and my mother. He continues to speak in this manner until he says that he has not provided for me and my mother. He did not allow us to take financial support from the state, as my mother is still in his marriage bond. She is afraid to go to court to request a divorce. Please guide her, may Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
It is not permissible for your father to prevent you from receiving maintenance or to be stingy with it and make things difficult for your family.
He (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "It is sufficient for a person to be sinful that he neglects those who depend on him." And he (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Begin with yourself, then with those under your care." Allah (Exalted and Majestic is He) made it obligatory for the husband to provide for his wife. Allah the Exalted said: "Let the one of means spend"[At-Talaq 65:7].
And He made it obligatory to provide for young children, as in His saying when He mentioned the provision for the pregnant and nursing woman: "And upon the father of the child is the same"[Al-Baqarah 2:233].
The conclusion is that the maintenance of wives is obligatory by the Book, the Sunnah, and the consensus of the scholars, because they are dependent on them. As the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said, meaning women, "They are in a state of dependence with you," meaning they are dependent. So their maintenance is obligatory upon their husband in a reasonable manner, without stinginess and without extravagance. Likewise, the maintenance of minor children is obligatory upon their father. However, the right to demand maintenance belongs to the wife; she has the right to demand her maintenance. Likewise, the woman has the right to demand from her husband the maintenance of her young child. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said to Hind bint 'Utbah (may Allah be pleased with her) when she came to complain to him, saying, "Abu Sufyan is a stingy man; what he gives me and my son is not enough," so he said to her (peace and blessings be upon him), "Take what is sufficient for you and your son in a reasonable manner." The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) settled for her the right to take from her husband's wealth what is sufficient for her and her son in a reasonable manner, indicating that she has the right to demand it. If she is in a position of strength in matters, and if she permits and agrees to ascend without demanding, this is a matter of choice. Yes. May Allah reward you with good.
I am eighteen years old. My father has stopped providing for me and my mother. He continues to speak in this manner until he says that he has not provided for me and my mother. He did not allow us to take financial support from the state, as my mother is still in his marriage bond. She is afraid to go to court to request a divorce. Please guide her, may Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
It is not permissible for your father to prevent you from receiving maintenance or to be stingy with it and make things difficult for your family.
He (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "It is sufficient for a person to be sinful that he neglects those who depend on him." And he (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Begin with yourself, then with those under your care." Allah (Exalted and Majestic is He) made it obligatory for the husband to provide for his wife. Allah the Exalted said: "Let the one of means spend"
of wealth spend from his wealth, and he whose provision is restricted - let him spend from what Allah has given him
سَعَةٍ مِّن سَعَتِهِ وَمَن قُدِرَ عَلَيْهِ رِزْقُهُ فَلْيُنفِقْ مِمَّا آتَاهُ اللَّهُAnd He made it obligatory to provide for young children, as in His saying when He mentioned the provision for the pregnant and nursing woman: "And upon the father of the child is the same"
Upon the father is the mothers' provision and their clothing according to what is acceptable. No person is charged with more than his capacity. No mother should be harmed through her child, and no father through his child. And upon the [father's] heir is [a duty] like that [of the father].
وَعَلَى الْمَوْلُودِ لَهُ رِزْقُهُنَّ وَكِسْوَتُهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ لَا تُكَلَّفُ نَفْسٌ إِلَّا وُسْعَهَا لَا تُضَارَّ وَالِدَةٌ بِوَلَدِهَا وَلَا مَوْلُودٌ لَّهُ بِوَلَدِهِ وَعَلَى الْوَارِثِ مِثْلُ ذَٰلِكَThe conclusion is that the maintenance of wives is obligatory by the Book, the Sunnah, and the consensus of the scholars, because they are dependent on them. As the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said, meaning women, "They are in a state of dependence with you," meaning they are dependent. So their maintenance is obligatory upon their husband in a reasonable manner, without stinginess and without extravagance. Likewise, the maintenance of minor children is obligatory upon their father. However, the right to demand maintenance belongs to the wife; she has the right to demand her maintenance. Likewise, the woman has the right to demand from her husband the maintenance of her young child. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said to Hind bint 'Utbah (may Allah be pleased with her) when she came to complain to him, saying, "Abu Sufyan is a stingy man; what he gives me and my son is not enough," so he said to her (peace and blessings be upon him), "Take what is sufficient for you and your son in a reasonable manner." The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) settled for her the right to take from her husband's wealth what is sufficient for her and her son in a reasonable manner, indicating that she has the right to demand it. If she is in a position of strength in matters, and if she permits and agrees to ascend without demanding, this is a matter of choice. Yes. May Allah reward you with good.
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، شاب عمره 18 سنة ترك والده الإنفاق عليه وعلى والدته فما توجيهكم؟ الشيخ صالح بن فوزان الفوزان — youtube.com
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