She wants to visit her mother's grave and recite the Qur'an for her soul

Question:
May Allah benefit you and benefit through your knowledge. The sender, Umm Ahmad from Jeddah, sent a large number of questions. In the first one, she says: My mother (may Allah have mercy on her) passed away, and I am traveling. Is it permissible for me, when I return from my trip, to visit her grave and recite the Qur'an for her there? She asks: What should I say before reciting a surah from the Qur'an for the soul of my deceased mother? And is there a specific surah that is recited for the soul of the deceased?

Answer:
First, it is not permissible for a woman to visit graves, whether her mother's grave or any other. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "May Allah curse the women who visit graves" in a narration . The curse implies that a woman's visitation of graves is a major sin, like building mosques over graves, because this is one of the means to shirk (associating partners with Allah), and like placing saddles and lights on graves, because that is one of the means to shirk. All these matters are strictly forbidden, including a woman's visitation of graveyards. Visiting graves is exclusively for men. As for reciting the Qur'an for the deceased, it is not prescribed, because there is no evidence for it. However, what is prescribed is to seek forgiveness for the deceased and to pray for him with mercy and forgiveness; this is what is prescribed. Also, giving charity on behalf of the deceased, and performing Hajj and 'Umrah on behalf of the deceased, are the matters for which evidence has come that they benefit the deceased. But reciting something from the Qur'an for the soul of the deceased, or with the intention of transferring the reward to the deceased, is not prescribed because there is no evidence for it, and acts of worship are based on evidence. Yes.