Is it permissible for a woman to complain to her husband about what she encounters in her day?
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Question:
May Allah reward you with good and do you good. She says about herself: I have a righteous husband, and praise be to Allah. If a person tires me out or something happens to me, I tell him so that he may advise me if I have erred, and I feel at ease when I complain to him of my daily worries. He says to me, "I am your safe box," meaning that no word of what you say will come out of me. And indeed, until now we have lived for ten years, and he has done nothing but what pleases me and pleases Allah with him and with me, praise be to Allah. My questions are as follows: Am I wrong in what I do if I complain to him? Does this count as backbiting and talebearing if I complain to him about the actions of people that bother me? Is it permissible for a woman not to hide anything from her husband? Please guide us regarding these issues. May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
What the questioner mentioned, that she mentions things that bother her to her husband or to others in whom she trusts and who have good opinion and advice, mentioning to them the things that bother her in order for them to help her solve them and remove what is in her heart, there is no harm in that.
That she mentions these things to one from whom she hopes a solution for these problems, and this is a matter of consultation and cooperation in righteousness and piety, as long as the one to whom she confides these matters is trustworthy, has sound opinion, and successful experience, and she has tried and benefited from that, then this is a good and beneficial thing. And perhaps it will remove what bothers her and what she is sensitive about regarding these occurrences and problems. Yes.
May Allah reward you with good and do you good. She says about herself: I have a righteous husband, and praise be to Allah. If a person tires me out or something happens to me, I tell him so that he may advise me if I have erred, and I feel at ease when I complain to him of my daily worries. He says to me, "I am your safe box," meaning that no word of what you say will come out of me. And indeed, until now we have lived for ten years, and he has done nothing but what pleases me and pleases Allah with him and with me, praise be to Allah. My questions are as follows: Am I wrong in what I do if I complain to him? Does this count as backbiting and talebearing if I complain to him about the actions of people that bother me? Is it permissible for a woman not to hide anything from her husband? Please guide us regarding these issues. May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
What the questioner mentioned, that she mentions things that bother her to her husband or to others in whom she trusts and who have good opinion and advice, mentioning to them the things that bother her in order for them to help her solve them and remove what is in her heart, there is no harm in that.
That she mentions these things to one from whom she hopes a solution for these problems, and this is a matter of consultation and cooperation in righteousness and piety, as long as the one to whom she confides these matters is trustworthy, has sound opinion, and successful experience, and she has tried and benefited from that, then this is a good and beneficial thing. And perhaps it will remove what bothers her and what she is sensitive about regarding these occurrences and problems. Yes.
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، هل للمرأة أن تشتكي لزوجها مما تلاقيه في يومها؟ الشيخ صالح الفوزان — youtube.com
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