What is the ruling on eating at the home of the deceased, and what is the ruling on giving them money, each person according to their ability, which we call a "foot"?

Question:
Also, following up on the first issue, you ask: What is the ruling on eating at the home of the deceased? Is it forbidden or permissible? Our custom is to go to the family of the deceased after we cry on the first day, then we go to the deceased on the third day, and we have lunch for the family of the deceased, and we eat at their place, and we give them money, each person according to their ability, and we call it a "foot," and this is recorded, and the women record their names, and each one when she paid, what is the ruling on all of this? May Allah reward you with good.

Answer:
All of this has no basis, and it is an affectation for which Allah has not sent down any authority, and it is imposing on people something that Allah has not obligated them to do.
The prescribed practice for those who have reached the nisab (minimum threshold for zakah) is to prepare food for them and give it to them according to their need, the need of those who have reached the nisab, because they are aware of their loss. Alternatively, one may prepare food for oneself. Among the ways of cooperating with them and showing mercy to them is providing them with what suffices them in their homes. This is based on the saying of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) when Ja'far ibn Abi Talib (may Allah be pleased with him) was martyred; he (peace and blessings be upon him) said: This is what is prescribed. As for what some people have become accustomed to, such as holding feasts and parties, gathering foods and meats, and other things, and compelling people to do so, all of these are burdens and shackles, and they are foods of .