Advice to sons who are undutiful to their parents
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The questioner : A second question, Shaykh. May Allah bless you. Some sons, may Allah bless you, are undutiful to their parents. I ask you, may Allah bless you, for your advice to them. May Allah reward you with good and reward you with Paradise.
The Shaykh : Yes. Undutifulness to fathers and mothers is among the major sins. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:Riyad as-Salihin 1550 Jami` at-Tirmidhi 3021Sahih (Darussalam) Allah, Blessed and Exalted is He, when He mentions His right, mentions the right of the parents in many verses, such as His saying, Exalted and Majestic is He: [Al-Isra 17:23] [An-Nisa 4:36] [Luqman 31:14]. It is obligatory for sons and daughters to fulfill the right of their parents through dutifulness and excellence, so that they may attain the reward of Allah, Mighty and Majestic. And because, as people say, the predecessors of a person who is dutiful to his parents are dutiful to him, and the children of a person who is undutiful to his parents are undutiful to him.
The presenter : There is no power and no strength.
The Shaykh : I also direct advice to the parents, for some parents, may Allah guide us and them, do not help us in being dutiful to them.
The presenter : Truly.
The Shaykh : You find him harsh-hearted and ill-spoken with his sons and daughters, so they dislike him and he dislikes them, and it becomes difficult for them to fulfill his right. So fathers and mothers should be gentle with their sons and daughters, for that is better for everyone and a help toward dutifulness and piety.
The presenter : May Allah reward you with good, Shaykh. Yes, and may Allah have mercy on your parents. Peace be upon you.
The Shaykh : Yes. Undutifulness to fathers and mothers is among the major sins. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, "Shall I not inform you of one of the gravest of the cardinal sins?"
صلى الله عليه وسلم ألا أنبئكم بأكبر الكبائر؟The major sins are associating others with Allah, disobeying the parents
الإشراك بالله وعقوق الوالدين.And
وكانAnd your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment.
وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوا إِلَّا إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًاWorship Allah and associate nothing with Him, and to parents do good
وَاعْبُدُوا اللَّهَ وَلَا تُشْرِكُوا بِهِ شَيْئًا وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًاBe grateful to Me and to your parents; to Me is the [final] destination.
أَنِ اشْكُرْ لِي وَلِوَالِدَيْكَ إِلَيَّ الْمَصِيرُThe presenter : There is no power and no strength.
The Shaykh : I also direct advice to the parents, for some parents, may Allah guide us and them, do not help us in being dutiful to them.
The presenter : Truly.
The Shaykh : You find him harsh-hearted and ill-spoken with his sons and daughters, so they dislike him and he dislikes them, and it becomes difficult for them to fulfill his right. So fathers and mothers should be gentle with their sons and daughters, for that is better for everyone and a help toward dutifulness and piety.
The presenter : May Allah reward you with good, Shaykh. Yes, and may Allah have mercy on your parents. Peace be upon you.
Source
قناة «فضيلة الشيخ محمد بن صالح العثيمين»، 2549- نصيحة للأبناء العاقين ابنائهم/سؤال على الهاتف 📞 /ابن عثيمين — youtube.com
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