A mother interferes in her son's wife's affairs; should he obey her?

Question:
May Allah reward you with good and do you well. The listener Ahmad 'Abd Allah Bakur says: My mother interferes a lot in my wife's affairs. Is it permissible for me not to obey her when she interferes between me and my wife? May Allah reward you with good.

Answer:
If she interferes in the private matters of your wife, then she has no right to do so, and you should not act on her words, because she has no interest behind that, and because it also harms the wife. However, if she notices correct faults in the wife and wants her to avoid them, then this is in the interest of everyone. So you should alert your wife to what your mother noticed about her so that she can avoid it, because this is in the interest of everyone. The result is that if there is an interest for the wife or an interest for you in doing so, then it is incumbent to take it into account. But if there is no interest in it and it is among the wife's private matters, then no one has a say in her private affairs. Yes.