She performs tasbih after the Fajr and 'Isha' prayers, but her husband is annoyed and wants her to keep him company. Should she obey him?
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Question:
I perform tasbih and recite the Qur'an in seclusion after the Fajr and 'Isha' prayers, leaving my husband and family behind, even though my husband gets angry and annoyed by this action of mine and wants me to keep him company. Should I obey him in what he wants, or should I continue with the tasbih and Qur'an recitation and not mind him? May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
It is not permissible for you to occupy yourself with tasbih and takbir, thereby angering your husband who wants you to be present with him and talk to him; because obeying the husband is obligatory, whereas tasbih, takbir, and dhikr are recommended. So do not prioritize doing the recommended over the obligatory, or commit the omission of the obligatory for the sake of attaining a recommended matter. In any case, obey your husband, because he is ordering you to do something permissible; he is not ordering you to commit a sin, so his obedience is obligatory. Perhaps there are benefits in that, such as understanding certain matters or consulting, or at least the comfort and companionship of one with the other; because this is among the objectives of marriage. Allah the Exalted said:[Ar-Rum 30:21] This is part of the comfort and tranquility between the two spouses: conversation, sitting together, talking, and consulting on certain matters. As for occupying oneself with tasbih, tahlil, and takbir after the prayers, that is among the recommended practices. Yes. May Allah reward you with good, and may He do you good.
I perform tasbih and recite the Qur'an in seclusion after the Fajr and 'Isha' prayers, leaving my husband and family behind, even though my husband gets angry and annoyed by this action of mine and wants me to keep him company. Should I obey him in what he wants, or should I continue with the tasbih and Qur'an recitation and not mind him? May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
It is not permissible for you to occupy yourself with tasbih and takbir, thereby angering your husband who wants you to be present with him and talk to him; because obeying the husband is obligatory, whereas tasbih, takbir, and dhikr are recommended. So do not prioritize doing the recommended over the obligatory, or commit the omission of the obligatory for the sake of attaining a recommended matter. In any case, obey your husband, because he is ordering you to do something permissible; he is not ordering you to commit a sin, so his obedience is obligatory. Perhaps there are benefits in that, such as understanding certain matters or consulting, or at least the comfort and companionship of one with the other; because this is among the objectives of marriage. Allah the Exalted said:
And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquillity in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy
وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، تقوم بالتسبيح بعد صلاة الصبح والعشاء لكن زوجها يتضايق ويريدها أن تسامره فهل تطيعه؟ شيخ صالح الفوزان — youtube.com
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