What is your advice for the committed young man who is reluctant to marry, and for the families who reject a suitor who is good in character and religion?
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Question:
Many committed young men, as opposed to the deviant ones, are reluctant to marry, thinking that dedicating themselves to study, or being occupied with seeking knowledge, or devoting themselves to da'wah (calling others to Islam) is better for them than marriage. In doing so, they forget or overlook the hadith of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) regarding the one who is fertile and the one who is fertile, and so on. Another type, when someone comes forward whose religion and character they are pleased with, they reject him, thereby contradicting the saying of the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him): "When one comes to youJami` at-Tirmidhi 1084Da'if (Darussalam) We hope from Allah, and then from your listening, that you would offer advice on this topic. May Allah reward you with good, and peace be upon you.
Answer:
This is undoubtedly a great error. It is obligatory for young men to hasten to marriage and to be eager for it. Study or anything else should not prevent them. In fact, they must hasten to marriage, for it brings chastity and much good. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: " is hungry, and it is reported from him (peace and blessings be upon him) that he said: "When a man comes to you whom you are pleased with in his religion and character, marry him to him." There is weakness in this hadith, but its meaning is correct.
It is obligatory for the fathers of daughters, or the guardians of daughters, to take care of this matter and not to reject suitable suitors because of poverty or the like. Rather, they should help them, even if they are poor, they should help them; for the presence of a good man is a great gain, even if he has no wealth. Wealth will come, if Allah wills. It is not befitting for the wali (guardian) of a woman to be eager to seek wealth from those who are not suitable, thereby harming her and her religion. He must seek for her a man of good religion, even if he has little wealth, and he must beware of the open sinner who causes corruption, even if he is a merchant, a minister, or wealthy. This is the obligation of the guardians. And it is obligatory for young men, wherever they are, to strive for marriage and to obtain it, even if they are studying. Study does not prevent marriage, and marriage does not prevent study. We ask Allah for guidance for everyone.
Many committed young men, as opposed to the deviant ones, are reluctant to marry, thinking that dedicating themselves to study, or being occupied with seeking knowledge, or devoting themselves to da'wah (calling others to Islam) is better for them than marriage. In doing so, they forget or overlook the hadith of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) regarding the one who is fertile and the one who is fertile, and so on. Another type, when someone comes forward whose religion and character they are pleased with, they reject him, thereby contradicting the saying of the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him): "When one comes to you
whose religion and character you are pleased with proposes to (someone under the care) of one of you, then marry to him
من ترضون دينه وخلقه فزوجوهAnswer:
This is undoubtedly a great error. It is obligatory for young men to hasten to marriage and to be eager for it. Study or anything else should not prevent them. In fact, they must hasten to marriage, for it brings chastity and much good. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "
(peace and blessings be upon him) said: "O young men, whoever among you is able to do so, let him marry, for it is more effective in lowering the gaze and guarding the private parts. And whoever is not able, let him fast, for it is a restraint for him."
صلى الله عليه وسلم يا معشر الشباب، من استطاع في الباب فليتزوج، فإنه أغض البصر، وأحسن الفرج، ومن يستطلع عليه بالصوم فإنه لهIt is obligatory for the fathers of daughters, or the guardians of daughters, to take care of this matter and not to reject suitable suitors because of poverty or the like. Rather, they should help them, even if they are poor, they should help them; for the presence of a good man is a great gain, even if he has no wealth. Wealth will come, if Allah wills. It is not befitting for the wali (guardian) of a woman to be eager to seek wealth from those who are not suitable, thereby harming her and her religion. He must seek for her a man of good religion, even if he has little wealth, and he must beware of the open sinner who causes corruption, even if he is a merchant, a minister, or wealthy. This is the obligation of the guardians. And it is obligatory for young men, wherever they are, to strive for marriage and to obtain it, even if they are studying. Study does not prevent marriage, and marriage does not prevent study. We ask Allah for guidance for everyone.
Source
قناة «فضيلة الشيخ ابن باز Alsheikh Binbaz»، 282 ما نصيحتكم للشباب الملتزم العازف عن الزواج، والأهل الذين يردون الخاطب ذو الخلق والدين؟ — youtube.com
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