The ruling on boycotting and severing ties with a brother because of cursing and insults
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Question:
There is a problem between him and his brother. He says to me, “My younger brother and I have a rift, and the quarrel between us is ongoing. He is constantly cursing and insulting me. Advise us on how I can befriend my brother and how we can be in harmony?”
Answer:
We advise you both to fear Allah and to be cautious of the causes of estrangement. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:Bulugh al-Maram 16:25 And he (peace and blessings be upon him) said: “Deeds are presented to Allah every Monday and Thursday” Muwatta Malik 47:17. .
So, holding grudges and estrangement are among the causes of being deprived of forgiveness. It is obligatory for you both not to be estranged from each other, but to reconcile between yourselves, and to repent to Allah for what has passed. You must advise your brother against cursing and insulting. And whoever among your relatives and brothers knows of this should advise him until he stops cursing and insulting. If you pardon him and overlook his faults, you will have a great reward. You pardon, overlook, and ask Allah for his guidance, and you do not boycott him for the sake of your right. It is permissible to boycott him for three days or less, with an increase.
With advice and guidance, perhaps Allah will guide him through your means, or through the means of some of your good brothers who advise you. May Allah reward you with good.
There is a problem between him and his brother. He says to me, “My younger brother and I have a rift, and the quarrel between us is ongoing. He is constantly cursing and insulting me. Advise us on how I can befriend my brother and how we can be in harmony?”
Answer:
We advise you both to fear Allah and to be cautious of the causes of estrangement. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: “It is not permissible for a Muslim to shun his brother for more than three nights. When they meet, this one turns away (from that one) and that one turns away (from this one) and the best of them is the one who greets his brother first.”
صلى الله عليه وسلم لا يحل لمسلم أن يجرأ أخا فوق ثلاث يلتقيان فيعرض هذا ويعرض هذا، وخيرهما الذي يبدأ بالسلام،Every muslim slave who does not associate anything with Allah is forgiven
فيغفر الله لكل مسلم لا يشرك بالله شيئاexcept a man who has a grudge against his brother. So Allah says: “Leave these two until they reconcile.”
إلا رجلا كانت بينه وبين أخيه شحناء، فيقول الله دعوا هذين حتى يصطلحاSo, holding grudges and estrangement are among the causes of being deprived of forgiveness. It is obligatory for you both not to be estranged from each other, but to reconcile between yourselves, and to repent to Allah for what has passed. You must advise your brother against cursing and insulting. And whoever among your relatives and brothers knows of this should advise him until he stops cursing and insulting. If you pardon him and overlook his faults, you will have a great reward. You pardon, overlook, and ask Allah for his guidance, and you do not boycott him for the sake of your right. It is permissible to boycott him for three days or less, with an increase.
With advice and guidance, perhaps Allah will guide him through your means, or through the means of some of your good brothers who advise you. May Allah reward you with good.
Source
قناة «فضيلة الشيخ ابن باز Alsheikh Binbaz»، 2657 - حكم هجر ومقاطعة الأخ لأخيه بسبب السب والشتيمة - نور على الدرب — youtube.com
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