A young man aged 20 wants to marry, but his father refuses on the grounds that he is young. What is your opinion?
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The questioner : This questioner says: I want to get married, and my father is able to marry me off, but he objects on the grounds that I am young, knowing that I am twenty years old. I fear for myself regarding unlawful sexual intercourse. Another says: O Shaykh, I am a young man seeking knowledge by the grace of Allah, and I work, and my salary is lawful.
The Shaykh : First, O men. It is the same question, O Shaykh, the same question, just close to it. You understood the first question: this young man is twenty years old and asks his father to marry him off. His father is rich, and he has nothing, and his father says, "I will not marry you off because you are young." I say the boy is not young. If he asks for marriage, it is obligatory for his father to marry him off. If he refuses, he is a sinner, and he will be held accountable for it on the Day of Resurrection.
Because providing for marriage is in the same position as providing for sustenance, in the same position as food, drink, and clothing, so he must marry them off. As for his saying that he is young, if we asked this man when he got married? Perhaps he got married at eighteen, I mean the father, perhaps or perhaps not? If he said, "I got married at thirty," let the one who can wait until thirty do so, if he is poor at that time or cannot find a wife. It is mentioned that 'Amr ibn al-'As was eleven years older than his son 'Abdullah.
Eleven years older, when did he get married? Ten years, so I advise the father to fear Allah and marry off his son. But if he is not satisfied with one, and the son has the capacity, and one is not enough for him, should he marry a second? Will he marry you a second? Fine, if the second is not enough, should he direct him to a third? If the third is not enough, a fourth? If the fourth is not enough. Examples. No, perhaps, he can buy him a job, he can buy him a job, because the Imam has no limit. In any case, I made a mistake in this example that it is obligatory for the rich father to chaste his son. Yes. The audio library of His Eminence the Shaykh. Muhammad
The Shaykh : First, O men. It is the same question, O Shaykh, the same question, just close to it. You understood the first question: this young man is twenty years old and asks his father to marry him off. His father is rich, and he has nothing, and his father says, "I will not marry you off because you are young." I say the boy is not young. If he asks for marriage, it is obligatory for his father to marry him off. If he refuses, he is a sinner, and he will be held accountable for it on the Day of Resurrection.
Because providing for marriage is in the same position as providing for sustenance, in the same position as food, drink, and clothing, so he must marry them off. As for his saying that he is young, if we asked this man when he got married? Perhaps he got married at eighteen, I mean the father, perhaps or perhaps not? If he said, "I got married at thirty," let the one who can wait until thirty do so, if he is poor at that time or cannot find a wife. It is mentioned that 'Amr ibn al-'As was eleven years older than his son 'Abdullah.
Eleven years older, when did he get married? Ten years, so I advise the father to fear Allah and marry off his son. But if he is not satisfied with one, and the son has the capacity, and one is not enough for him, should he marry a second? Will he marry you a second? Fine, if the second is not enough, should he direct him to a third? If the third is not enough, a fourth? If the fourth is not enough. Examples. No, perhaps, he can buy him a job, he can buy him a job, because the Imam has no limit. In any case, I made a mistake in this example that it is obligatory for the rich father to chaste his son. Yes. The audio library of His Eminence the Shaykh. Muhammad
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قناة «فضيلة الشيخ محمد بن صالح العثيمين»، 55 - 64 شاب عمره 20 عاما يريد الزواج لكن والده يرفض بحجة أنه صغير فما رأيكم؟ - ابن عثيمين — youtube.com
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